It is said, we cross paths with certain people in our life for a reason. Sometimes, we know the reason, sometimes we realise the importance of some people and sometimes we just float along…
There is another theory that says we attract the type of people that share our aura. The way this theory works is that if your aura is clear and energised positively, then you attract similar people- people who truly deserve to be with you and people who truly complements your strengths and weaknesses. And when you are “not clean” yourself, you attract the “not-so-good” elements in life.
So I have been trying of why certain friends of mine always gravitate towards the wrong type of people in their lives- Curly spent the best past of the last 6 yrs hoping for something with the biggest plonker on earth, Dr F did not always choose the right women before he met Mrs F (and I absolutely adore her), Crystal has a history of the worst women one earth and let’s not even talk of Spartacus! So it should not surprise me Ryan messes up so often too…but I have my own theory (surprise, surprise). I think, people can have different auras for different things. I mean all these people are absolutely awesome people and attract the best of the best in their life- colleagues, best friends, friends but somehow, they (and I) haven’t always been the most successful in personal relationships. Why is it that we all have chosen the wrong people and some of us continue to do so?
I mean, Crystal never thought he would be the lady he is with today. She was so not the type he would usually go for but she is the type I used to push him towards. Thank God he eventually heard me, because he is so happy with her and they make an excellent couple- so grounded, so caring and so perfect.
Dr F used to be with people who never matched his intellectuality. Mrs F may not be the business brain he is but she can hold her ground in so many fields he is clueless about. And she can play so many avatars- from a grungy night clubber to the perfect elegance for a black-tie event, she can play the perfect partner without losing her individuality.
Curly has yet to find a partner but I suspect the changes she is making in her life are going to help really well. She has taken the right steps and banishing the guy from her life will only make it easier for a new one to come right in.
Spartacus and Ryan now are a different kettle of fish. They are both keen to find the right partners, they are both keen to meet someone that describes their idea of perfect but they are not keen to make the effort to meet them. Spartacus goes for women who make the first move- so he is always letting them choose- at least they are strong women. Ryan on the other hand goes for the low-hanging fruit- which usually means that the best, though tough to get to, gets left out and even though there are a good few of what he describes out there as his perfect partner. This gets me wondering is it because of their (our) fear of getting hurt- all three of us are very alike and similar. I let the guy always believe he’s made the first move (am a girl after all and like to let the man feel cavemanlike) but even then, I turn away some really good men away because I don’t feel the chemistry there. Am I being too choosy or is it just that our auras are not clear enough for the correct person to come our way?!
I can’t do a thing about the others, but I can certainly try and make my aura cleaner and so I hope the changes I have been trying to make go towards all my auras being clear and me only inviting the people that actually provide a reason, that match my energy levels and that add that something special- be it as a friend, a colleague or more- to cross paths with me and become a part of my life. I hope my mates do it soon too because it is really irritating to see them with people they really shouldn’t be with.