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So, this happened!

Earlier today I was driving home, shattered and wrecked- looking forward to my bed.

And then, I came to a stop at a red light in the middle lane and realised the guy on my right was indicating to come into my lane so obviously I acknowledged I would let him in but realised he wanted to ask me out for a drink.

Now, I have had men hit on me in numerous places but never when I am looking like a zombie and in pure sign language a metre and a half apart.

One way to feel pretty damn good about myself and go to bed on the high from it 🙂 Feel beautiful world, you are awesome x

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Men ARE from a different planet

Proven FACT, today.

I drive ALL the way to see Red in a tiny village where I have no other vested interest to not be greeted with hugs and “let me look after you since you are sick” but “I am off to the pub, have fun”.

Seriously!?

If I was not so damn sniffly and scared of crashing the car, I would almost certainly have driven home tonight.

Hopping mad!!!!

If I needed to watch telly/ work/ read a book, I could have saved fuel, saved time, eaten something I like to eat, caught up with friends and stayed at home!

Men. Idiots. Fact.

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Totally agree- the uber man!

All- read!

http://whalesandmatches.com/
or if that link doesn’t work, it is copied here too:
http://mindvalleyacademy.com/blog/love-and-relationships/nothing-sexier

Men, this is what we women want. (Red- go figure it out)
Women, if you don’t agree, please tell me why!

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So… women get more emotional post sex

This is a well known fact- it is tougher for us women to just have sex and not get emotional about it- not impossible, mind you- some people have perfected the art but not all of us have… and a friend of mine put it beautifully in perspective today….

When a man and a woman get together, a woman lets something get into the very soul of her body- in touches her darkest spot in her body, it shows trust, it depicts acceptance, it depicts a sense of unity. Whereas for a man, he is getting out of his body- he is not connected to his emotion at all. For him, it’s just an act. It is only over a matter of time, through his emotions that this act starts meaning more.

When put like that, is it a wonder that we are so careful about letting someone in?!

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A guy “SHOULD”

I cannot believe I have become one of those ladies who actually thought “A guy should…” I mean seriously- WHY?! I have always scoffed at people who expect the other partner to know what to give and what to do without the girl telling him!

I am a little sick and feeling cranky and wanting my mother, so for obvious reasons I would like Red to look after me but he doesn’t know that. He knows I am a little sick but to him, that’s probably reason to stay away. And in his state of shyness (endearing and irritating, all at once!!), he is obviously not likely to reach out. I do know for a fact that if I was with him and then started feeling sick, he would move all he could to mind me.

All my other friends think he SHOULD come over and mind me or at least offer to- a part of me wants him to, yes BUT is it fair to expect that? Especially when I am being the one holding back from sending him a text ‘cos in my head I want him to reach out to me now- ‘cos even though I know he cares for me, I need him to somehow make me believe we both want this! (And maybe that’s why I haven’t told him to look after me!!)

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Hope. Yup, I have hope.

I choose

You know, for a very long time, I have always been told
“You have very high expectations”
“You need to settle down with someone who loves you more than you love them”
“You are never going to find someone who fits the bill”

I have also written about what I expect from a date and what sort of a partner would I like. I was told by people

“You are aiming too high”
“You will die alone”
“Stop living in a fantasy world”

For a very long I believed the people, for a very long time I was willing to “settle”, for a very long time I thought maybe my friends did know better and were seeing something I wasn’t… a part of me still believed though and as I was saying to Lady earlier today, Tolkien fits a lot of what I have said in the past- this gives me hope- not ‘cos I think he is the one (too soon to say that, he does have a very strong chance though!) but cos he lets me realise what I want is achievable.

Maybe I am like Carrie from Sex and the City and as such this quote captures me fairly well too…

SATC- some women arent meant to be tamed!

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What a girl wants, what a girl needs…

Came across an article in a men’s magazine recently telling them what a girl wants- the top 10 simple rules.

My take on them:

1. Totally, I want a guy who is into ME- who I am, what I do, what I enjoy (and yes, I will accord the same back ‘cos if I am with you, I am genuinely interested!)

2. Not so sure- I want acknowledgement but not necessarily on the Hallmark occasions- if I say I don’t want anything, I usually mean it- no games!

3. That goes for everyone in your life- thank you’s and sorries rock!

4. Kinda ties in with 1

5. The reason I broke up with TL so yeah, I totally stand by this- potentially one of the most important aspects

6. Be a grown up, even if its in your parent’s basement- especially if the reason is so you can mind them. So not as strict but yes, be an adult

7. Commitment, yes. Marriage- not necessarily.

8. VERY important- I think it is so so so so important to be able to compliment and accept compliments!

9. A 2 way street- but obviously

10. Yup- cos life is special when all those simple things tie in together

Ah well, if such a man exists in my vicinity and is smart enough to keep my brain locked in,  coffee? 😉

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What’s Your Insecurity?!

We are ALL insecure- about something. Be it in business, in our professional lives, in our careers, in our relationships with our family, in our relationships in love, in our friendships, in our sport or whatever it may be. And yes, I am insecure too- I am insecure in some of my friendships, I am insecure in my ability to do certain things, I am insecure in my future, I am insecure in my relationships with my brothers and bar once, I have always been in secure in a romantic relationship (this confession has been tough but hey, tis true).

I usually don’t inflict my insecurities on anyone else, or so I believe. The other day, I was a victim of a friend’s insecurity and despite recognising it as that immediately, I still got VERY angry, I still was VERY peeved and I was spitting fire at that person for almost 48 hours (fortunately in my head and not in person)!! Now that’s completely stupid and insane, especially since I knew exactly where it was coming from. It got me thinking:

– Do we recognise our own insecurities?
– How do we manage our insecurities?
– Does anyone have any ideas how to get over one’s own and how best to deal with those of their own friends?

We all want to be accepted as we are but who knows the real us when we are always trying to cover up our insecurities?! Everyone knows an aspect of us and that’s it- have we gotten so used to wearing a mask constantly that no one and no one, including ourselves (I fear/ suspect) knows who the TRUE US is?!!
Scary, scary thought, thinks me.

On a fun note though- I totally adore this pic!

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Dating a Girl

Men tend to make a big deal of dating a girl… I understand why- we are complicated creatures. However, deep down inside, I suspect, we all want exactly the same thing from our partners- love, respect, trust, loyalty, honesty- we just portray it differently.

To men, strength is in being the protective one. Apparently our strength is in showing our vulnerability– duh, that’s obviously what I am doing wrong :/ And there are many other such rules- I for one, am oblivious to them- I make my own, I follow my own and together, i create whatever works for the guy I am with and myself. It has obviously not worked so far, in as much, that I don’t have “the one” but it has worked in terms of making me the person I am today, giving me the belief I need and letting me grow the way I want to.

However, the other day I came across a picture and it caused me much amusement:

Usually not one to believe such statements, this one actually sits uncomfortably close to the truth- the more I like someone, the more I ignore them- especially if I am really close to them. It’s partly a self protective mechanism for myself because when it comes to love, I am not the biggest risk taker!

And then, I was assailed with doubts (‘cos we know how my belief has taken a knock over the last while) and came across this:

There is a lot of truth in the old adage “All’s well that end’s well”. And so on that hopeful and optimistic note, goodnight! 🙂

PS I love this post about why one should women who travel– geeky, travel crazy, gorgeous, friendly, successful- no wonder I intimidate men 😉 hehehe, will the real men please stand up and introduce themselves?!

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Break Ups!

With Valentine’s Day round the corner, many people are either remembering their break ups, focusing on break up or like me, just wanting the day to move on… However, the one good thing is the theory going around about how Valentine’s Day is cancelled because: 14-2-12=0 (for the geek in me, it’s caused many a giggle). And the other is this image- not necessarily a valentine one but well, still only come my way at this time… And oh so true, we women tend to assimilate facts, get used to the new ways things are happening and move on whereas men feel the crash later, much later. And in a completely different universe, my personal and professional avatars are fighting- I am delighted Ryan is having trouble with some official stuff and still likes to get my opinions but at the same time, as a mate, I want to help and know that I can’t till he asks me! Wish things could be simpler but sometimes, you just need to let the people make their mistakes and come out flying the other side (hopefully) or else let them make them.mistakes and be there to pick them up the other side (preferably not). Ah well… life’s a journey and an interesting one at that… here’s to the shenanigans coming my way!

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The geek in me loves this!

Hahahahah brilliant and true, I suppose… it kinda defines the new rules of cheating eh… instead of postcode, it’s if your phone is not connected to mine 😉

And while, we are on about the geekiness…. here’s a flowchart for The Beatles’ Hey Jude!

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Meh, men!

On a dating site, a friend’s friend contacted me- not knowing it was me!

And when I mean my friend, I mean a very close personal friend who shall rename unnamed for the sake of her privacy. And when I mean friend’s friend, I mean more than friends.

Seeing the two of them together, I had thought this whole “friends with benefits” lark could work for strong women but today, I learnt, it doesn’t- it doesn’t work for anyone. If there are two people, just having fun, one of them is likely to get hurt and more often than not, it’s the girl. At the end of the day, people’s interpretation of this situation is different and it’s not always an easy talk- and most men, don’t want the talk!

Women are nurtured to be a one-man-gal, a monogamist creature, a penguin but men- no matter what, you can’t take their cave activities out- they want to sow their seeds in as many as they can and you know what, they do it without realising they are hurting you. Meh!

How can the two genders be SO differently wired?!
How do so many people manage fwb relations without any issues??
How do strong women like my friend and me mess up on something so insignificant?!
Why do women’s reactions come out so strongly and why do men think we are drama queens when we are just emotional?! Let me blow the steam out and I am all good.

Oh, so many questions, such few answers. And while I am on the roll of questions, do universal contour wraps really work or are they a gimmick?

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Men are from Mars, Women from Venus

I had to take screen shots from my email for this! Too funny 🙂 Brilliant!

(Too funny but now it gets better!)

(I love, love, love the teacher!)

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Smitten Mitten

Over the last few days, I have spent a fair bit of time with Rower- more than I would have expected to at this time of the year!! But we have both made an effort and it has been very cute.

  • Date #2- he drove me home from Dublin ‘cos my lift wanted to party and I was too tired.
  • Date #3- he wanted to bake cupcakes together (well, post dinner).
  • Date #4- he gave up a night of free alcohol and hanging out with some people he only gets to see about once a year to go to the cinema with me.
  • Date #7- he came down to see me really late on a Friday night, again giving up on free work drinks because it was the only time we would have managed to see each other for a while.

As my friend, The Diva, said- very genteel.

A picture I came across today kinda sums up to some extent the kind of guy Rower is and why despite not quite being an absolute out there Alpha, he has managed to capture my attention and keep it there!

Rower seems to be that kind of man at the moment, he gives me compliments (even if they are hidden in a joke text at times), he appreciates me for what I am, he is amused by the drive I display, he understands my need to be passionate about all I do and in his own way, he appreciates it all and wants to support it and add more to my life. In a very weird way, it makes me really enjoy being with him.

One night as we were drifting off to sleep, he kinda murmured how beautiful I was and how I always looked in my really nice clothes. And last night was very cute- he made a flippant comment (flippant in the sense that I wouldn’t read much into it yet it was out there) saying he really liked how I got him in so many ways. To me, it was actually not cheesy but really nice- it’s the sort of thing I like to hear.

So basically, I am smitten, yes. Will it go anywhere? Who knows! Do I want it to go anywhere? Who knows! Do I want to go exclusive with him? Honestly, I still don’t know- go figure!!

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A true fairy tale!

Hehe

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She gives women a bad name…

And by she, I don’t mean anyone in general but a lot of ladies- a certain type of the female population, to be honest- a percentage that have no respect for themselves, settle for anything and lower the opinion a certain male population have of the female race.

The funny thing is, I usually remain disconnected from those sort of females and try to avoid those sort of men but seriously, sometimes, you meet a guy and he is brilliant in every which way but has zero/ nada/ no respect for women and you realise he has only dealt with the type of females that give other ladies a bad name.

These girls need to grow up, even if not for their sisters in the world, but for themselves and realise that to get respect from the world, they need to respect themselves.

And those men, well, they need to realise that to get a lady, they need to stop being seen or hanging out with those females, ‘cos a woman worth her salt can smell the stench of another woman and will not go near…

Cryptic as I am, I know what’s bothering me and just need to rant!

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Harry?

Over the last couple of weeks, I have been interacting with this guy, who for the purposes of the blog, we shall call Harry.

Harry is this really nice, down-to-earth guy, with an interesting brain and a pretty intense but still fun attitude. Now, if I were to just hang out with him as a mate, I know it would be a good friendship. However, I know he is interested in more and I am not sure what I want.

I did the whole usual pros and cons list etc but I am still unsure. There is a part of me that wonders if I am over-critical and if I expect too much?! And then, I am reminded of Charlotte in Sex & The City and how she always went for a certain type but then ended up with Harry- a lovely guy who wasn’t a perfect match to her list and he certainly had to try hard to get her to agree. Somehow, in my situation, it seems kinda similar- the only difference being I can’t say I fancy him back, at least not yet!

So world, tell me, how does one know whether to pursue something or not?! What sort of signs should I look out for?!

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Men’s Jewels

Some interesting facts I learnt in a recent Cosmo about men and their best friends- the real one, his family jewels- and for the uninitiated, I am not referring to the diamonds and sapphires here!

  • They get 11 erections a day!
  • They provide self-relief 8 times a week.
  • Men use their manhood to measure their masculinity. So apparently, size does matter, but mainly to them.
  • “A pen!s can ruin your morals and cloud your judgement. He’s my best friend and my worst enemy.”- words by a man on his manhood. (I can totally relate to these- I have seen many men do things they normally wouldn’t do or approve of, just to get lucky in the sack- and despite all I have heard and read, I can’t reconcile myself to this fact)
  • Like a woman’s anatomy, no two are the same- size, shape, inclination, etc- everything is unique to every man.
  • Unlike women, men never discuss what’s normal and so build up a lot of insecurities.
  • One can buy padded underwear to make your pelvic area look more well-endowed than it is! (And we women thought only we could put those chicken fillets to use, eh?! ;))
  • More men enquire about pen!s enlargement surgery than women do about breast enlargement! (Now this came as a surprise to me, a BIG surprise)
  • The average erect pen!s is 6.5 inches (and the average vag!na is 3 inches)
  • Some common nicknames for their man hood are: Beef soldier, giggle stick, cucumber of love, Cyclops, Cupid’s arrow

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Mystery solved?! But opens new questions…

So, a couple of days ago, after a very long time, I caught up with one of my exes- Elethiomel. Our relationship wasn’t very long, nor did it last long enough for us to fall in love but we did get along fabulously and fortunately still do. In the conversation, it turned out that he had not been with anyone since we split up almost 10 months ago.

Now, he is a fantastic guy- great personality, cute, fantastic sense of humour, gentlemanly, caring, well-read, passionate about his work, tall and at the risk of giving too much information- good in bed too. So all in all, a great package. His lack of timing (or sense of) was a massive thorn in our relationship though and one we couldn’t overcome. Combined with our hectic schedules, our lives being at different places, we ended up having to drift apart… and honestly, when I think of him now, I am glad we are friends and don’t really miss the relationship aspect that much- of course, every so often, one wants someone to cuddle and watch Madagascar with!

It makes me wonder how many other amazing men are out there and how does one get to them… is it only through word of mouth? All my friends know the sort of men I go for and know I am open to the idea of a relationship or at least flirting, so that ones covered. Many of them have hobbies but aren’t part of any hobby clubs because they have their set of friends and are happy to just hang out with them and pursue their hobbies with them, so that’s not always an option.

At least it is heartening to know that there are still many options out there! Now to get to the next part of the mystery- Finding Them! Here’s hoping I find my gem soon.

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An update of sorts

So the past while has been a bit interesting- a lot of the guys from my past have made a reappearance…

The Chef- wants to rekindle things but still is convinced Ryan and I will end up together and can’t fathom the friendship :/

The Geek- he drove me all the way home from Dublin ONLY to spend some time with me. Very sweet but very spineless and an exceptionally terrible kisser!

Freedom- Don’t think I have mentioned him in the past. Went on one date with him, knew he was totally into me but I just wasn’t physically interested in him. I mean, nice enough guy but not quite the Alpha male I hope to be with. Potential to be a great friend is what I had pegged him for but it seems, he is keen to try more- every few days, I hear from him and it’s definitely flirting…

On the other hand, I am thinking of trying online dating- I mean, one never knows who I might meet and if nothing else, I might make some local friends… I am one who believes in the initial connection (not in love at first sight) and I really doubt any online introduction can replicate that! Either which way, time to have a bit of fun and enjoy the attention, I suppose 🙂

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This heartens me

One of my guilty pleasures is Cosmopolitan- the magazine for some weird reason amuses me, interests me and makes me want to buy it every month even though I don’t read half the articles. The makeup section intrigues me, I suppose as do some of the other light-hearted stories but whatever, it is my guilty pleasure. Gossip mags don’t do a thing for me and since I love spending time with HBR, I need to have some outlet right? Anyway, who am I justifying myself to?! I like reading it and so I do, there, simple.

In one of the articles I was reading some 124 facts about men (sometime in 2009) that were little known. The ones that intrigued me are:

  • On average men spend 1hr 44 min preening themselves for a night out- 19 mins less than an average woman!
  • Only 39% of men dislike being dragged around shops
  • 39% men would give up sex if it could mean they’d have a head full of hair (really?!!)
  • 44% men have cried at movies and only 39% have cried at the break-up of a relationship!!
  • 43% men expect to have sex on Valentine’s Day
  • Men are at their most romantic at 53 (maybe I should be dating only 53 old men!)
  • 25% of men wee in the showers (ugh!)
  • 20% of men earn less than their other half and 83% of them are bothered by it! (such a pain)
  • 54% of men change their sheets before bringing a girl back to theirs for the first time (I am sure I have been with some of the 46% but I don’t like that thought!)
  • There are 5-7 calories in a spoonful of semen
  • Wealthy men give more orgasms
  • 58% prefer cuddles to beer to cheer them up
  • AND MY FAVOURITE ONE: Men claim the most attractive woman is 5ft 4 in, with a 30 in waist, 40 in hips and wears a size 14 dress (means I can still put on some weight, hehehe- beer and pizza- well champagne and pizza, here I come!!)

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Mars

That’s kinda the nickname Tigger and I have given my project to find me a man!

Over the past few days, I have been dealing with the issue called TL- yes, he needs to be dealt with- I need closure- 2 years on and I have never dealt with the end of a significant relationship and I think this is my time to grieve- I need to go through all the 5 stages.

Today I spent a looooong time on the phone to my friend Curly- she rocks and she was the one who made me realise I needed to grieve and deal with the end of that relationship- even if he was a douche bag and did propose to me again in Feb/ Mar this year while he was dating the lady he is about to marry! Men- seriously!!! And then, I had an even looooooooooooooooonger chat with Tigger- she always amazes me, amuses me and makes me happy.

So yesterday, while chatting to one of my friends, we decided to come up with my list- today, Tigger encapsulated it in 2 words “my equal”- that’s who I am looking for- someone who is intelligent (yes I do believe I am), someone who has a similar fire in his belly as I do in mine (could be about anything really), someone who knows how to have fun, someone kind, someone compassionate, someone trustworthy, someone ambitious, someone passionate, someone who complements me, someone who enjoys traveling as much as I do, someone who enjoys being at home every so often but loves going out too, someone who is my best friend too, basically my Mars bar (A Mars a day helps you work, rest and play).

The other day, my mother decided to tell me what all the stars say about my partner and there’s some things that really strike me:

  • Not too tall
  • Not the fittest guy on earth
  • Non Indian- potentially Caucasian
  • Someone whose career I will help grow
  • A friend
  • Someone who understands the nuances of fine living
  • Someone who has passions and interests of his own
  • An individual

I like the sound of that… to be honest, even though I don’t believe in what the stars have to say!

So where do people like me hang out? Where does meet the male versions of me? Do they exist? Now to come up with a strategy…

At a later date (Dec 13):

Came across this quote somewhere: “lots of affection, plenty of ambition, honesty and the guarantee of financial security are the four ways to a Taurus female’s heart.” Oh so true- a combination of all those is a very good way of keeping me happy! 🙂

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‘My’ Men and MY weekly achievements…

You know, there are a few things I have almost always felt are important in the way of a relationship for me… height is one of them- I like my heels and I like to be able to support myself on my guy’s arm when I am in those really high ones so if he is less than 6 feet it just doesn’t do it for me and personally, for some reason, I cannot feel as attracted to them.

Another one is that of their salaries. Weirdly enough, it never use to bother me and really doesn’t when it comes to spending money etc but as I have dated more and more people, I have come to realise that men find it difficult when the girl earns more… and it really is a problem to them, psychologically even if they don’t think so. And now study shows that men who earn less than their partners cheat more! So somewhere deep inside, I was right to start doubting that one. Saying that, I think the salaries are not a discussion point or an issue of the two people in the relationship are not in the same profession as the competition is tempered down somewhat. So despite whatever the world might say, including this animation ‘Alpha & Omega’ that I am really looking forward to, an Alpha female only really works well with an Alpha male.

Anyhow, enough of my ramble on men. That’s a topic I could go on about for quite a while as we all know.

Here’s to my top 3 of the week:

  • Completing one of the most intense years any human could ever face.
  • Climbing a mountain despite every cell in my body resisting.
  • Facing the risk of deportation and dealing with it calmly to sort out the issue- atleast I have managed to get myself some time with the government and their admin errors!

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Ah Men- can’t live with them, can’t live without them ;)

You know, every month we ladies are allowed to be moody, behave erratically and expect our man to just deal with it as we go through the PMS. Somehow I feel sad for the men not getting that monthly outlet to just be slobs- maybe that’s why they do it ALL the time…

Anyway, just wanted to share this video- an oldie but still funny! Enjoy the laugh 🙂

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Menism!

So men feel that there are still expectations of them. Here’s my view on each of their points- I am going to rant, and really rant, so if you have the time, this is the moment you go get that cup of tea/ coffee, a few biscuits (I’ll take a chocolate HobNob please), put the feet up and read my rant.

1. Make Money

Who expects this? The women who are so busy earning so much that they don’t have enough time to spend it all? The women who are actually scared to tell you they earn twice your amount because it hurts and yes, I mean hurts, your ego? The women who are high maintenance but they maintain themselves and don’t expect you to do that- if you treat them well, they will stay with you but that does not imply gold shoes or diamond belts, it means just looking after us? What independent lady today asks for the man to be the main bread-earner? Yes, I want a guy who can support me but that doesn’t mean I’ll stop working or that I wouldn’t do my part- I mean, a relationship is meant to be two equals right. Two of my favourite idols in the working world are ladies who have stay-at-home husbands- so there. I personally would lvoe to marry a writer or someone creative so there is no competition and I can be at work without worrying about neglecting the kids I’ll have someday! I want a man to have enough money that I am not supporting him completely but it’s a partnership and I don’t expect a guy to fuel my need for designer shoes/ clothes/ sunglasses/ jewelry or whatever else I spend it on!

2. Win! Win! Win!

Again, who wants you to win? The same lady who loves you for who you are? The lady who doesn’t care whether your title says President or Manager or whatever? I do care about the passion and pride the man has for his job- but that’s because I stand mourners and usually men who have no passion or pride in their careers/ jobs do that because to them it’s work and a way to make ends meet which shows a lack of ambition. Ambition to me is NOT all about power. I struggled with this one for ages, yes, especially in my early 20s but now, I know for sure, I want happiness and I want my man to be happy too. So, who is telling you to compete constantly? Infact, today’s theory is all about not competing but working together…

3. Be physically strong

What we mean by this is open the jars we can’t open! Not be able to stop a speeding truck with your hand. Seriously dudes, get a life. You love to have those ripped muscles and that sixpack- personally, I like a guy strong and fit but I really dislike those really muscly bodies- I actually love the athletic look more than anything and so if that means, physically strong, ok, fine, I am guilty of it! Anatomically we are built such that men are more powerful but no where does that mean we want Vin Diesel (ugh).

4. Fix stuff

Yes, I like it when a guy knows how to get stuff from the attic, how to change the lightbulb etc but at the same time, that’s a bonus. For one, my brother is terrible with screw-divers, my ex-boyfriend was useless at changing tyres (though I suspect I was always the sucker and just did it while he laughed knowing full-well he could do it) but in this world of being able to hire someone for everything and DIY for all- it’s not just the men who this is expected of. We women have to deal with someone saying “Oh you are such a female” in a snide manner when we can’t do something- but you don’t see us crying about it now, do you?

5. Get it Up

Errr yes, this I do expect of MY man! Ok, not every single time- I mean stress, alcohol etc etc do have an impact on all of us but if you think we can completely ignore the physical side of a relationship, what are we if not platonic friends?!! And it’s nice to have all the words, the hand, the tongue and everything else you mention in your article but like really, one needs the real thing too, you know.

So men, grow some balls (pardon my French) and stop complaining about society expects from you- yes, you are a man but you can still define yourself or do you need a woman to do that too?!

P.S. I realise alot of what I said is taking an extreme view and that the article does try to do some damage control too but all said and done, this is MY rant and not for anyone else really!

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Obviously my day for random links!

1. 2 Travel Safety Tips

So, for someone who travels a fair bit (or well, hopes to), I usually get the advice to take copies of my passports everywhere, to not carry too much cash, to not wear very provocative clothes etc etc etc but this is some amazing advice- gives me an excuse to sleep in, even better!

I usually go for window seats in airplanes and as high as possible in hotels, maybe, I need to rethink both! Hmmm… I know this says nothing about airplanes but think about it, if there is an emergency, the people in the aisle would get out quicker than those by the window that doesn’t even open…

2. Women are NOT from Venus

“Popular culture tells us that women and men’s brains are just different. It’s true that male and female hormones affect brain development differently, and imaging studies have found brain differences in the ways women and men feel pain, make social decisions and cope with stress. The extent to which these differences are genetic versus shaped by experience — the old nature-versus-nurture debate — is unknown.

But for the most part, male and female brains (and brainpower) are similar. A 2005 American Psychologist analysis of research on gender differences found that in 78 percent of gender differences reported in other studies, the effect of gender on the behavior was in the small or close-to-zero range. And recent studies have debunked myths about the genders’ divergent abilities. A study published in the January 2010 Psychological Bulletin looked at almost half a million boys and girls from 69 countries and found no overall gap in math ability. Focusing on our differences may make for catchy book titles, but in neuroscience, nothing is ever that simple.”

I this! It comes from an article about 10 random facts on brains and is an interesting read though Points #7 and #1 are my favourite! I can now fight anyone who says I am thinking a certain way because I am a lady and I can tell my friends who care about their looks to realise the importance of those lines- maybe, I should go add some lines on my face by frowning though the laughter lines are so much prettier, me thinks!

3. Ladies, stretch your legs!

Yet another reason to stretch our legs ‘cos I refuse to give up heels- they are way too sexy!

4. And that is abuse of power, silly goose!

So a flight attendant became irate and went down the inflatable evacuation tube. Kinda sounds funny, in fairness, to the flight attendant! But this IS so silly, people who believe they have the power yet are low in the pecking order really shouldn’t think they can get away with things like these!!

5. Some of the things we argue about, fight about, care about are, well- for lack of better word, lame

David having the time to put this together makes me wonder how un-lame it is too but seriously, some of the things in here are just insane! I mean do I really care if Jimmy Wales edited his own birthdate or if Sarah Palin is more or less famous than Michael Palin (the man with the dream job), is Bono any good at the harmonica etc?!

Either which way, funny and amusing. And keeps me well distracted for a while… 😉

6. Puberty at 7/8?!!

Man, I am glad I didn’t have to deal with puberty at that age- imagine trying to explain birds and the bees to a kid that young! Studies are showing that girls today are hitting puberty early because of obesity (oh sorry, the word is fat now, isn’t it?) and the environment. I can just see this being such a bag of troubles! 😦

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Just another ramble…

So it has been a while since I updated about my dating life… and to be perfectly honest, a while since I took stock of it myself!

So let’s try and see who are still in the game and who’s the flavour of the moment…

Players who are still around:

  • The Scientist- still kinda leading the race but if I am not gonna see him for at least 2 months, is he really in the game?
  • The Photographer- a new dude on the scene who I am really beginning to like flirting with. And the best bit, unlike the Scientist, he flirts back!
  • The Chef- yeah, well, he’s still around but I am beginning to guess more as a mate…
  • The Surfer- he wants to tell me my fortune apparently- if he doesn’t behave, I’ll tell him his!
  • The Architect- another avid reader and a keen musician- a drummer to be more precise (and we all know about my weakness for drummers!)
  • The Geek- he thinks of me as SuperWoman, how can I not have a weakness for him?! 😉

So that’s 6 in one go! No wonder I can’t keep track of my life.

Ah, all in all, fun & games… after all, what’s life if I ain’t dating a bunch at the same time, right?! How do I juggle it all? Do I need to decide on one? Or do I just carry on? Ah decisions, decisions, decisions!

And oh random fact of the moment: August 2010 has 5 Sundays, 5 Mondays and 5 Tuesday- this happens once in 823 years! Feel special peeps 🙂

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Apples & Wine

I am NOT suggesting wine made from apples… relax!

Got an email off a mate of mine today about how women are like apples and men like wine- and have to admit, there is some truth in it:

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree.

Most men don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt.  Instead, they sometimes take the apples
from the ground that aren’t as good, but easy. The apples at the top
think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they’re amazing.

They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who
is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

Now Men…. Men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and it’s
up to women to stomp the shit out of them until they turn into
something acceptable to have dinner with.

I am an apple on the top of the tree judging by that theory and still waiting to make my fine wine- made a few bottles of some drinkable stuff along the way… 😉

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I did say I wanted to ramble…

… and so I am back!

This time a topic that seems to be very close to my heart- DATING- again! In particular, first dates…

Now, by no way or means, is this list exhaustive or in any way a guide for anyone else- these are my experiences and I kinda have hit upon this list by chance:

  • I am NOT your sweet, darling or anything– don’t you frigging call me that- do you know what I am like when I am PMSing? Do you know what I do when i am really angry? Do you know what makes me sad? No, right? You are not close enough to call me your darling or any such endearment!
  • I am presuming we’ve been texting/ e-mailing before we meet- it’s very rare I would come up with a time on the spot when I meet you (I have a great brain for double-booking) so if you’ve used terrible grammar, text speak or not used proper punctuation/ capitalisation, you are starting on a weak footing.
  • Peck on the cheek when you meet me- ok, A bear hug- NOT ok!
  • Shoes– I can’t explain what it is about them but I do notice them and I do judge them and I do make a decision based on that and so far, 10/10 for my judgements being right- I am not proud of it but I am beginning to believe it.
  • Pay up guys– if it’s a coffee or something, buy me one. I may earn loads, maybe even more than you but that’s beside the point. Unless it’s a meal or something, cough up- you are in the company of a capable, independent, pretty lady- treat her like one. I am all for women’s lib but read point 10 to see what I mean- somethings are just chivalrous and gentlemanly.
  • Dress right– a suit jacket is not the same as a jacket to be shrugged on the jeans- c’mon seriously, do you think I have no sense of style or that I’ll just look at it and smile? I will smile if you seem to have made no effort  and the look is quirky but not when I know you’re trying to impress me and failing miserably! And oh yeah- don’t forget deodorant- very important, you know- especially, if things go right…
  • Make me smile- simple. Don’t try and tell me tales of what brilliant stuff you’ve done, or the new discovery you made- tell me about you- the person you are, the dreams you have, the childhood memories that always crack you up etc- I wanna date you and not your CV!
  • Reading habits– I am being a snob but there is something to be said about those who read (e-reading/ audiobooks count) and those with a thirst of knowledge and learning- college education is fine and dandy but c’mon, you need to continue with the thirst of knowledge!
  • Errr, cinema IS not really a date– we sit together, eat some popcorn, drink some fizzy stuff, stare at a screen, exchange 2 words the whole evening and make plans to actually meet each other again? Nope- with me, there is no second time- you take me to the cinema the first time, you get the boot, simple.
  • A tight-rope walk but if you can master this, it will help you loads- treat me like a lady but never, ever not like an equal. And while at it, don’t patronise me- I am sharper than I may come across as at times, trust me, I know that!

Seriously guys, you follow these simple 10 commandments of mine, and I don’t see any reason why I wouldn’t wanna see you again… it’s not that difficult really!

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What are the chances?!

So, when it rains, it pours- at the moment I have 4 guys that I am flirting with- yes forget that original list from a few weeks ago, it has been updated:

  1. The Scientist- we all know the story with him! I really (and I mean REALLY) like him. He suggested meeting up today- yay! However he said “to clear up the air”- that sounds kinda ominous, has he been reading this blog or is it because I was a ditz and sent him the wrong text? Ah well, sometime this week, I should have my answer!
  2. The Chef- still knocking around, still laughing with him and he does come up with some amazing ideas for picnics etc!
  3. The Sunburnt Dude- he was meant to meet me tonight but canceled because he is sunburnt! He seems nice if a bit rigid in some of his ideas. I am not sure yet but am willing to give it a shot, since I am on the fence currently!
  4. The Packer- he is new to the scene- a business owner who is just trying to get into the online space (potential future partnership eh- sorry business on the mind always!) and very charming. Not my usual type- blonde, broad built but very sweet. Do I sound just a tad bit smitten? 😉

The funny thing is they ALL have the same name! Like seriously, how funny is that?! I am not used to multi-dating but this makes it so much easier- I only need to remember the one name but I could end up texting the wrong guy at the wrong time since they are so close together and keeping their stories different- even trickier!!!

And mum, if you are reading my post- this article is for you- I have obviously not written it, obviously your facts differ but please, could you stop smoking? I will never ask for any other present- not at festivals, not for birthday, not for anything.

Have a good week all- I shall try my best to keep my same-named-man juggling not get me into any trouble. More soon:)

x

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Ladies, beware ;)

Well, this one is for the ladies out there…

If you think a guy is trying to seduce you and has been getting his advice from the internet- then he may be thinking of popping in one of these films to get you in the mood.

Seriously, who puts these lists together? I mean, I like most of these films but would I really get in the mood with all of them, not sure? Will I have a good time, yes? Are there others I would appreciate more- maybe! I mean, if a guy is watching a chic flick with me, it is usually because he wants something- there are VERY few guys who genuinely enjoy these movies. I mean, if a friend of mine came to see Twilight with me, for example (NOT that I am likely to drag them or myself to it), I would wonder if

  • he were straight
  • he fancied me (when we are not dating)
  • he knew what the movie was about
  • he had a hidden agenda

Men, if you really want to get a girl in the mood- do something you both enjoy- she enjoys it when you are having fun too. Don’t always put us on a pedestal and treat us like porcelain!

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Heya all!

So I just had a few moments today to just sit back and reflect on so many things happening in my life and here’s my week so far- pretty charmed life, I lead eh?

On Monday, I got offered the role of a CEO of a SME in Ireland- now that’s pretty darn cool, in my opinion! And then I spent the rest of the evening with close friends just chuckling, smiling and having a good time 🙂

Tuesday was a quite day with alot of visits to the toilet and knowing I have a doctor mate who dropped by to check up on me, with a bottle of wine in tow, made me laugh! I mean seriously, doc, I haven’t even in 24 hours and you want to pop open some wine to celebrate? You went with non-bubbly ‘cos of my health- oh how nice of you! Thanks for the laugh doc 🙂 [Incase you are worried, it turned out to be 7up in the wine bottle and he was troubling me but hey, it was amusing]

I went for a tour in the Convention Centre Dublin on Wednesday and wow! What an amazing building- completely carbon neutral, a PPP that seems to be favoured towards the public while still making a profit for the private entity and 8000 capacity on the 5 floors! I am blown away with the way everything was so high-tech and all- maybe in the years to come, it wouldn’t remain so good… but for the moment, I can see a lot of potential to it. My biggest issue is the lack of connected hotel- when I go away for conferences and such, I tend to prefer staying in the same hotel than commuting… I know they are connected to Ritz Carlton in Powerscourt but that’s gonna be not easy!

And today, I was reminded of an old song I used to love- there was an Indipop version of it too but for the life of me, I cannot remember it- so if anyone could tell me where I can get either the French or the Indian version of the song, I would be very grateful- it’s a very soothing tune. I also learnt a random fact that there were over 2 billion videos viewed on YouTube yesterday- that’s some traffic!!!

Some interesting links I enjoyed reading today:

Big hips on women = potential memory loss!

China is STILL trying to control its people’s thoughts!

What a way to start what you’d hope to be a lasting relationship!!

Opening wine by using a shoe- certainly wouldn’t manage that in heels!

Indian Rupee has its own symbol now!

The potential of social media marketing (McKinsey Quarterly report)

Testing your decision making gut (McKinsey Quarterly report)

And when to trust that gut? (McKinsey Quarterly report)

And the BEST smile of the day- TS mailed me a reply to an email I sent him on Tuesday because he had promised to do so. He mailed me at 3 am because that’s when he finished work- now, how cute is that? You gotta adore someone as sweet as that 🙂 *Swooooooooooooooooooooon*

And you know what- we are only half way through the week- how cool is this?! Wahay, I love life!

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:) It’s funny how this is turning out to be quite heavily focussed on relationships!

So here’s a forward I just received which sums up the perspectives of the different sexes in the relationship pretty darn easily!

A WOMAN’S POEM:
Before I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man who’s not a creep,
One who’s handsome, smart and strong.
One who loves to listen long,
One who thinks before he speaks,
One who’ll call, not wait for weeks.
I pray he’s rich and self-employed,
And when I spend, won’t be annoyed.
Pull out my chair and hold my hand.
Massage my feet and help me stand.
Oh send a king to make me queen.
A man who loves to cook and clean.
I pray this man will love no other.
And relish visits with my mother

A MAN’S POEM:
I pray for a deaf-mute gymnast nymphomaniac with
Big tits who owns a bar on a golf course,
And loves to send me fishing and drinking. This
Doesn’t rhyme and I don’t give a shit.

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And since the game is too exciting to work

I have decided to update all on my dating position with regards the 6 (and maybe more…) men. So I promised a friend of mine last night that I will dwindle it down to 2 in the fortnight. So, copied below are my original comments from Saturday- and now for an understanding of where they stand- colour coded and all, I tell ye 😉

1. A really sweet economist who is a few years younger than me- met up a few times and we always have a great time- however, I am wondering if its more a really good friendship than anything else. We haven’t exchanged any mails or anything in the last while- he seems to be thinking along the friendship lines too, me suspects. So I get to keep him in my life (phew! he’s a good egg) without having to feel guilty about hurting him!

2. A chef- the food aspect alone has me drooling, honestly. Ok that’s not fair on him- he is up for random walks along the sea, along the canal and other fun things on an impulse. It’s all quite easy- I don’t feel the need to think twice or play games, that bit rocks! Still flirting, still having a laugh, still enjoying each other’s company- we;ll see where it goes…

3. An engineer turned manager who spends more time away from Dublin than in- he really makes me smile every time I see a message from him. (Yeah, sickly cute, ain’t I?) And he has the same taste in books, wine and food as me (well… there are some differences but what’s life without those differences?) Well, guess who has a date with this cutie towards the end of the week? 😉 And even nicer- he thinks I have the right to be silly and send him texts when drunk which I regret the next morning! And sounds condescending as it does, without gushing too much, let’s just say, he made me feel all girlie inside and that IS saying something. So far, I would imagine, he is in the lead.

4. A tall, tall, tall hairstylist who has such a cool past of doing a million different things. And for someone like me who is constantly trying to juggle a lot of balls, I love the stories. Date tomorrow night- so this time tomorrow, I could either be striking him off the list or he could be giving the engineer-manager a run for his money!

5. A kid who lives on the other side of the country and loves Terry Pratchett. How can you not like anyone who has such fabulous taste in books?! Yeah, he has realised he is a kid and I am potentially not the right sort of person to be dating- we rarely manage to catch up! Galway- Dublin ain’t that far but still… since I am so unsure of my next steps, let’s not complicate it with a further twist.

6. A Kafka and Borges fan- really- how can we agree on anything but we manage to find common ground, a few laughs and a lot of smiles. It’s become very same-same after a while- and I get the feeling he is trying to make sure he doesn’t say something to p!ss me off. C’mon, I know I am opinionated but I don’t want someone who is scared- I want someone who can stand up to me! I am willing to enjoy a good argument every so often!!

7. A hunky doctor- like seriously since when does a girl with a phobia of needles and blood consider dating within the medical profession?!! And I am sure I have been blacklisted in Ireland amongst the doctors after my appendix experience… We’ve just spent the last 3 hours slagging each other’s teams for tomorrow’s semi, discussing colours and their relation to sex and other random topics under the sky. I am looking forward to that rioja I suspect we shall share not too far in the future.

Ok, so from the original 6, I am down to 3 and there is a new 1 too… how does this impact my promise to my friend… Am I allowed to add new ones in and if not, why not? And if they do come in and are green, then am I allowed to let the pool I am dipping  my toes in (no pun intended) get bigger?!

And now back to the game- 2 goals in 3 mins by Netherlands- woohoo! My reasoning of supporting a colour I like obviously did the trick this time- pity I didn’t put a bet with Paddy Power!

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