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Jun 24 Monday: Gratitude

1. Intelligence
Few people realise the difference between brains and intelligence. I was always told I am intelligent and I have a brain but also given out to for not getting enough marks in school etc. Now I realise I am delighted with the fact I am intelligent and know how to use that brain, even if I am not good with the textbook stuff.

2. The ability to take a step back
Sometimes things p!ss me off- as we know on this blog. Sometimes they really p!ss me off. Being able to take a step back and calm myself down is something I don’t always manage but I am glad I have the ability to do so most of the time.

3, Friends & family
Doesn’t need much more to be said. With the new niece in the family, I am even happier the list of people I am blessed to have in my life is increasing.


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May 27 Monday: Gratitude

1. Sunshine
Yup, many of us take the sun for granted. But when you live in Ireland and you are more often pasty and pale rather than brown and coloured, this is something you are grateful for, you appreciate and you love. Thank you Weather Gods- please give us a few more days of sunshine, a few more days of happiness and smiles and please, let the next 5 weekends be dry and warm too.
Cannot wait for the constant sunshine in Cuba…

2. Friends & family
Yup, I repeat myself like a broken record. But honestly, with NLP looking out for me, with The Shrew just minding me, with Lady caring for me- people I have known only a year, I realise how lucky I am to have these people in my life. And all the while, I have kept my older (not necessarily by age, in case any of you get into a huff!) friends too…

3. My E/I Quotient
I am not the most intelligent nor the most empathic person I know. However, what I have I am delighted with- I am glad I have a good mix of both the emotional and intelligent. And I am even gladder I have the sense to use it all…

Thank you Universe for everything, I truly appreciate all that I have, all that I have been given and all that is yet to come my way.

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Do NOT forget


Just wanted to remind you all. Have a fab day 🙂

And then I came across this post by Denise and well- had to share this too 😉 Go on, forgive and move on!

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Guilty EVEN when proven innocent!!

The other day, I had to make my annual pilgrimage to get my visa sorted. I find that a simple 20 min task to get both immigration and visa sorted spans over 2 days and is bl**dy painful.

Simple changes could really make things SO efficient:

  • Have one window do both the tasks- so what if they are 2 different departments?!
  • Get people to book appointments so they can do other things and don’t spend hours sitting there
  • Provide desks for those who want to work on the move so the productivity element can carry on
  • Why have someone stand there to hand out tickets? If they are checking the documents anyway, maybe they can figure a quicker way of processing them too?
  • Why not let someone be efficient by giving them a ticket while they go get a postal order- saves them time and has people out quicker- win-win!
  • Why not accept credit cards and not make people waste money on getting a postal order?
  • Allow the visa and registration to last longer than a year
  • Make the long-term visa quicker to get so people don’t have to do this annually
  • Make it possible to renew online
  • Treat people with respect- if they are in the immigration office, they are either working, married to someone who is working or studying here and therefore, in all instances, they are bringing money into the economy!
  • Maybe have a separate process for the different stamps or priority queues or something
  • And why oh why close the office of the second step so much earlier than the first step- it means, people have to return the next day and therefore, need 2 days away for this bureaucratic sh!te!!

Worst thing is the way the people treat you in there- even if you have all the paperwork, you have everything done right, you are treated with disrespect and piece of sh!t- it’s as if you are guilty despite having been proven innocent and it’s as if you are worse than scum.

Basically, it’s a horrible experience and one I truly dislike, especially since it could be so quick, so efficient, so pleasant for all involved. Is this what I pay my taxes plus the f*cking expensive registration fees for?! I mean, I paid a HUGE amount for a green card, and then I have to pay for registration and finally for a visa- POINTLESS!!!! Do it in one go and charge me an extra 50- the saved time is well worth it or rather, don’t charge SO much every single time.


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You know I have always thought I don’t have a type- a type of book to read, a type of friend, a type of man, a type of movie, a type of freedom, a type of massage, a type of sunscreen etc etc etc., however there is a type I do adhere to and it’s for pretty much everything in my life- man/ book/ movie- intelligent. So basically, deep down, when I really think of what makes me happy- it’s intelligence.

I mean, when a masseuse giving me a massage uses her brain to define what’s the right kind of massage for me, when I find a sunscreen that adapts to the needs of my skin, when my car tells me the information I am looking for (fuel average/ average speed etc), I like it- why?! cos there is some element of intelligence.

Therefore, I declare my type is Intelligent- emotionally, physically, mentally and whichever other way it can be, be it something to read, something to see, something to speak, someone to interact with or whatever I interact with- I am gonna try and see how many thing I do on a regular basis are really intelligent and if they aren’t what can I do to make them that way! I want my life to be the intelligent type- after all, I can only live it once.

Side note: Talking of types, this message Pixie sent me re Ryan and his girls is brilliant “Hilarious how X noticed straight how much Ryan is into his blondes- whether attractive or not”- so true. Funnier still was the fact she said it in reference to Miss Piggy! However, as mentioned in a previous post, his type are the manipulative b!tches- the type Crystal used to go for in the past, odd that eh?


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So sweet that it’s beyond cheesy even!

So I was browsing one of my favourite websites today and after my earlier rant about love, decided to read more about what makes us fall in love. According to the article I read:

“We have found that two important characteristics, kindness and intelligence, are extremely important in the process of falling in love. And attractiveness is not connected to these things. These two attributes are things that people learn about someone from knowing them over time. Intelligence is important in all aspects of life, especially in love. But kindness is the strongest indicator for a successful long-term relationship.”

Personally, I am a huge fan of both intelligence and kindness and they are both very important aspects of what I look for in a guy but that’s what makes us fall in love- oh please, let’s not forget chemistry!! There is definitely a need for that, me thinks…

Anyhow, an update on all the men I am currently “dating”:

  • The Scientist- well, I still kinda like him but there has been NO contact for almost 3 weeks now and I am beginning to wonder if it’s just a case of bad timing. He’ll potentially be a ‘what-if’ guy because I got along SO well with him.
  • The Chef- everytime I think we are just mates, things change and when I get used to the idea of something more, we go back to hanging out like mates. I am a wee bit confused about us but I am enjoying myself so I suppose it’s all good, right?
  • The Geek- I think I may have been dethrowned from being a ‘Superwoman’ but he still is keen on me and we still have a good time together, so it’s all good, right?
  • The Architect- haven’t seen him in forever but still on the scene all right….
  • The Photographer- he still flirts with me but I seem to be going off him completely. It’s weird, on paper, we would be so perfect- we match each other well but when there’s no chemistry, there’s no chemistry right?
  • The Surfer- he took me for a long walk the day after I had a terrible hangover and is keen to see me for coffee before I move to the middle of nowhere but I am not so sure…

Funnily enough no new additions this time! Am I losing my touch already?! Shock horror 😉

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A very interesting read- Why Intelligent People Fail

Ok, so I did think of coming and giving an update on my turbulent, dating, romantic life but I got distracted by a fabulous excerpt:

Why Intelligent People Fail
Content from Sternberg, R. (1994). In search of the human mind. New York: Harcourt Brace.E

1. Lack of motivation. A talent is irrelevant if a person is not motivated to use it. Motivation may be external (for example, social approval) or internal (satisfaction from a job well-done, for instance). External sources tend to be transient, while internal sources tend to produce more consistent performance.

2. Lack of impulse control. Habitual impulsiveness gets in the way of optimal performance. Some people do not bring their full intellectual resources to bear on a problem but go with the first solution that pops into their heads.

3. Lack of perserverance and perseveration. Some people give up too easily, while others are unable to stop even when the quest will clearly be fruitless.

4. Using the wrong abilities. People may not be using the right abilities for the tasks in which they are engaged.

5. Inability to translate thought into action. Some people seem buried in thought. They have good ideas but rarely seem able to do anything about them.

6. Lack of product orientation. Some people seem more concerned about the process than the result of activity.

7. Inability to complete tasks. For some people nothing ever draws to a close. Perhaps it’s fear of what they would do next or fear of becoming hopelessly enmeshed in detail.

8. Failure to initiate. Still others are unwilling or unable to initiate a project. It may be indecision or fear of commitment.

9. Fear of failure. People may not reach peak performance because they avoid the really important challenges in life.

10. Procrastination. Some people are unable to act without pressure. They may also look for little things to do in order to put off the big ones.

11. Misattribution of blame. Some people always blame themselves for even the slightest mishap. Some always blame others.

12. Excessive self-pity. Some people spend more time feeling sorry for themselves than expending the effort necessary to overcome the problem.

13. Excessive dependency. Some people expect others to do for them what they ought to be doing themselves.

14. Wallowing in personal difficulties. Some people let their personal difficulties interfere grossly with their work. During the course of life, one can expect some real joys and some real sorrows. Maintaining a proper perspective is often difficult.

15. Distractibility and lack of concentration. Even some very intelligent people have very short attention spans.

16. Spreading oneself too think or too thick. Undertaking too many activities may result in none being completed on time. Undertaking too few can also result in missed opportunities and reduced levels of accomplishment.

17. Inability to delay gratification. Some people reward themselves and are rewarded by others for finishing small tasks, while avoiding bigger tasks that would earn them larger rewards.

18. Inability to see the forest for the trees. Some people become obsessed with details and are either unwilling or unable to see or deal with the larger picture in the projects they undertake.

19. Lack of balance between critical, analytical thinking and creative, synthetic thinking. It is important for people to learn what kind of thinking is expected of them in each situation.

20. Too little or too much self-confidence. Lack of self-confidence can gnaw away at a person’s ability to get things done and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Conversely, individuals with too much self-confidence may not know when to admit they are wrong or in need of self-improvement.

I have copied this content from another blog, and cannot lay claim to anything written above except that I find it fascinating!

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Intelligence vs. Career

A few days ago, I had posted a link to a study about how people who went to bed late were usually more intelligent. Today I came across another study that shows that those who wake up early do better in their careers.

What if I went to bed late and was thus more intelligent, woke up in the morning and so was getting ahead in my career and slept in the afternoon (‘cos a woman needs atleast 5+ hours of sleep!)? Would that make sense?!

However, if I had to choose between intelligence and career, I would go for intelligence ‘cos without that, there is NO career! So sod you studies, all it comes down to is the brains I have and how I use them 🙂


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