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The Feel Better Factor

Over the years, I have come across loads of different types of people. Surprisingly 😉
There are usually ones I warm up to instantly, some I am a bit cagey about and some I can’t tell why I don’t like.

Often, in the ones I don’t like initially, there are a handful who change my mind about them but often, turns out my gut was right. These people have this amazing ability to eventually make you feel better about yourself, have fun with them, trust them and so on and as you start getting comfortable and changing your initial belief about them, BOOM.

They start saying comments that make them feel better about themselves. Now I, for one, am all about the self loving! I love me and I think everyone should love themselves. BUT it’s not doing you or anyone else any good if you can love yourself by putting others down. Their comments may be slightly snide only or they may be masked as advice but never have I come across any that are genuinely helpful.

Over the years, I have been trying to weed such people out of my life and surround myself with those full of love and gratitude, those who don’t compliment me when they don’t want to, those who only advice me when they can add value or when asked and those who genuinely wish me the best.

Down with the frenemies! I wish there was a way to eradicate that gene in every single human.

ego and soul

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I am a statistic

Honestly, I never thought I would actually outloud admit it but that’s the fact- we are all exactly alike, we want exactly the same thing and we end up doing the same things!

Here’s an interesting read someone sent me earlier today: http://www.girlfriendcircles.com/blog/index.php/2014/01/the-5-biggest-mistakes-women-make-in-their-friendships/

#1: Agreed. I bow down to the persistence of many friends who kept trying to meet more and more and eventually I did and today, they are amongst my favourite people

#2: Amen. Bittersweet truth- my friends have changed, a lot of the very old ones are around but many have changed, some I didn’t expect and some I did… c’est la vie. I have added in many new friends in my group in the last while too though so whoop!

#3: My biggest issue. I feel I am constantly making an effort and sometimes when I step back, I realise I was and so the friendship does fall off the charts completely or sometimes I realise the different strengths. Now I am in friendships where I take more initiative and some where they do… overall, there is a balance in the relationship that works for us!

#4: This bit is fortunately not true at the moment. Or so I wanna believe. Hopefully I will always remain mindful of it.

#5: Guilty. Absolutely do but I think I do it when someone makes me happy too- I exaggerate on both ends but mostly on this space or in my head. I use it as a form of justification for my actions too…

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And now for Christmas!

Bring it on!

This is the first year I have partied as little as I have and had a total of 3/4 days at home but if anything, I have learnt a lot this Christmas season:

  • I am older, I don’t mind not going to the new bar that’s just opened
  • I can’t drink as much as often, I need more recovery time
  • I prefer small intimate groups to big celebrations
  • I love that big night out or two coming up to christmas
  • I love the traditions certain groups have started
  • I have an alcoholic theme to my presents this year, yup!
  • I love shopping for others
  • I love cocktails and prosecco, not always together
  • I am very lucky to have the friends I do
  • I am becoming rather domesticated with hosting my parties and baking loads of nibbles/ desserts
  • Life is awesome

Have a fabulous, safe and very merry christmas all. Love xxx

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Jammies!

In the last 3 days, I have been caught in pyjamas 3 times when I least expected it but once, I chose to put them on (the least flaterring ones infact) and sit down with Red and a good friend of his!

child in us

Now I am obviously very comfortable with Red but to be so comfortable with his friend is a good feeling and you know you have made some right choices in life when you are surrounded by such folks in your life.

I am a lucky girl.

Today I am grateful for the love in my life- romantic, family and friends; comfortable clothes I love and a happy disposition towards everything.
And the epic 10 hour sleep I had earlier. Yes!! #winning

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The balance of the good hearted moaners!

The other day, I was chatting to this couple with whom I have become very good friends- we were realising how friendships have changed and how some we thought would always be around are no longer important, cherished, easy or possible.

It basically got us talking about the different philosophies we all choose to decide who to stay with and who to avoid… and I spoke of the dilemma I had gone through a few months ago where during my cull, I had realised there are some people I quite like, who mean well and are genuinely nice people but just not the ones I want to spend a lot of time with as they can be rather dull or stubborn and more often than not, end up complaining loads. A tricky one eh… how does it all balance up and I found the easiest solution was to reduce the amount of time I spent with them, switch off the brain that gets irked up and just stay calm till I get home and punch a pillow or breathe deeply on the walk home or do the forgiving exercise until I am comfortable enough with it.

Am I doing the right thing or this is the philosophy to follow… I dunno but it works for me, it allows me to keep good people around me in a way I like… all about the balance!

Focus on those who make you smile

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An Innocent Bystander

I realised the biggest downside of being in a relationship- it possibly took me forever to learn the lesson that others have inherently known but I did. I have always treated each relationship as between two people but the more I see the world, the more I realise everyone isn’t as clearcut about relationships.

Recently, there was a bit of a fall out between someone I thought was a friend and me- things came to a head yesterday and we have agreed to go on differing paths.

There were a few things that upset me:
– it was yet another miscommunication issue
– after a great day on Saturday, I felt a change to some extent was actually possible but so was not the case
– Red getting affecting without needing to

blame

There are a few lessons here for me:
– not to trust anyone the way I have in the past ever again
– to really try and read the worst in what I say/ write as it will be picked up in that vein way more than it would be in the way I intended
– to think of every relationship from a couple stand point yet treat it as my own singular one

I sincerely hope I can amend my ways before I cause anyone else unintended hurt.
As way of somehow putting it all to an end for me, I wish the people affected the very best and truly hope they get all they deserve. They have been good friends at different times to me and I sincerely wish them well.

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Oct 7, Tues: A Beautiful Moment

I am late catching up on this as I was busy catching up with people in the real world.

I was reminded today of a beautiful Sunday last year in the summer when a friend I rarely see but enjoy great conversations with and I went walking up the beautiful Glendalough mountains and had a few drinks to just have a good time and enjoy the sunshine.

Moments like these are special and make me realise how lucky we truly are to enjoy this beautiful world.

Here’s to many more!

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Givers and Takers

Over the last few days, I am realising that I have managed to surround myself with more takers than givers which automatically makes me a giver… somehow, this is now causing me a little bit of resentment, anger and frustration!

I know the only person to blame here is me- it is my expectation, my silly hope, my stupid idea of believing in change and falling hook, like, sinker every single time. I now understand the romantics a lot better!! A part of me wants to believe it is not a lack of self respect but I do think it could be- every time I plan to move on from such a friendship, I seem to be sucked right back into it!!

Ah sure, one of these days, I will hopefully learn!

dont be unsure

And if you are sure you are not really on their priority list, re-evaluate if they should be on yours!

 

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Mar 17, Monday: Gratitude & Mar 18, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Gratitude:

Red
Post party ‘fear’ hugs, pre party calm down chats, long romantic drives, effort to find me colours etc etc etc- the list goes on, I am lucky to have him. I am glad I have him.

Weekends
Sometimes, you got to appreciate a weekend away! It makes for good chats, good company, rejuvenation and good times!

New Experiences
The joy of a new experience- whether to be repeated or not is completely immaterial! To experience it is the important thing 🙂

Beautiful Moment:

This weekend, I spent a good bit of time talking to one of Red’s bestfriends- we talked of aspects we hadn’t before, we discussed spirituality, we discussed God, we discussed atheism, we discussed relationships, we discussed friendships- we had a good chat and we were able to re-connect on many levels. I love meeting new people and more importantly, I love getting to know them as friends.

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In the past year…

A lot happens in a year- I truly believe this:

a year

This time last year, I would have counted Tigger and Ryan as two of my closest friends, Candy & I were going through our own transition, I cared a fair amount more than I do about Chammiya, I didn’t really know Lady, I hadn’t met The Shrew.

However, more than that, I think I have finally understood why I hated 2012 as much as I did.

1. Of my trilogy of “best” friends, two of them were not there for me. The rocks and support I had were moved from under me and I felt my absolute core shift and me not understand it. I have always kept myself guarded in the past ‘cos of my dad- I let it down most to certain people and two of them used it to hurt me. And boy, they hurt me- not by getting together (I couldn’t be bothered by that) but by not realising that it affected my relationships with them individually. At no point, did they try to preserve the individual friendships we had but that’s the passion of a new relationship. At least they are happy. And hopefully soon, things will calm down a little. I do hope the image below always reminds me of the sort of romantic relationship I want and how I want to ensure my friendships remain unaffected so as not to be on this side of the scale.

relationship happiness

2. I felt I was more like my dad than not and I didn’t like it. I had ended my downward relationship with TL and been made to feel guilty. I ended my downward business relationship with Ryan and the guilt in me wrecked me. I felt I had walked out on 2 people who expected more from me, who wanted more from me and to whom I couldn’t give. I broke ties the way my father did. TSG was awesome in making me realise how different I really am.

Bitchology

3. I was with Roark this time last year and kinda hopeful about it. This year, I have been with Red for over 2 months now, we are not in a relationship and we may never have a future but I feel more safe and secure with him than I have in the longest time. He gets me. I do hope we are given a chance to figure out “us” but then again, c’est la vie.

when you both want

Last year, according to many friends I was stressed, I was wound up, I was scared, I came across unhappy and I truly lacked focus. I needed the year to build myself up. This year, everyone has seen a calmer sense in me- I have accepted my faults, my weaknesses, my shortcomings. I am stronger, I am softer and I am ready for the challenge that life throws my way- I have been lucky to have found some amazing people who have stepped in and decided to help me out. I am truly blessed. I am lucky. I have a fabulous life.

accept, confidence, fear

I also realised I have been second guessing everything, been looking for my father’s approval, been wanting to do it right and in the process, have gone against my instinct and therefore, ended up on a longer route to where I may have been going but hey, it’s finally beginning to get there- slow and steady eh? 😉

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Standards & Expectations

In every thing one does in life, there are certain expectations and standards we set for ourselves. In relationships too, it is the same. We all know how much I dislike hypocrisy and how seriously I take my friendships.

So when my expectations in friendships are not met, I feel terrible. I feel bad. I feel angry. And honestly, if the person was in my shoes, I would expect them to feel exactly the same way.

And so, maybe, it is time to start subtracting!

add and subtract

It hurts to subtract certain people and things in my life but maybe, it is time to bid adieu and not expect so much! The only problem being Tigger means a lot to me and letting our friendship go will have massive knock on effects… and am I ready to deal with them, emotionally? And so continues the fight between the head and the heart.

Do you know the worst bit?! If roles were reversed, she would have no trouble cutting me off!

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An interesting description of friendship

I got this from a friend today- thanks S!

Each friendship defines its own relationship but these are just the fundamentals, eh? 😉

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Always feel misunderstood ever? :/

I somehow suspect this feeling of constantly feeling that someone is misunderstanding you is not unique to me. For the past while, I have been feeling that for a few friends of mine- no matter what, I walk away feeling exceptionally small and unloved- knowing full well, that’s not what they mean!

Tonight I decided to take a break from the constant dating, socialising, partying, gigging, etc to clean my room. And weirdly enough, we know how cleaning does help me gather my thoughts and evaluate my life every so often and today was one of those days.

And I got the feeling that at least 4 people in my life are constantly misunderstanding me- each of these relations has seen a strain over the past while. I completely get that I haven’t been the easiest person to be around but I get the feeling that no matter what, both of us (all 4 of them individually) and I are affected- I mean, there are other relationships doing great in my life but these relationships mean too much to me too.

 

Without my pillars of support, I feel wrecked and tired. I need the energy now, more than ever, the tide is finally turning and I want to be able to take advantage of it and ride the wave, knowing full well that my safety net is secure incase I slip off the trapeze!

On a different note- music of the moment: Jack Bugg, The Villagers, Kodaline and Cfit- go listen and support them- they are all so awesome.

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It struck me!

You know, the other day, I was walking down the street and trying to figure out what had caused the shift in the dynamic with a few of my friends- my relationship with Candy, Tigger and Ryan all seemed to have been affected. Considering these are three of my closest friends, I obviously was affected very strongly and needed to understand what was going on at my end. Additionally, Chammiya and I had a bit of a misunderstanding too and that just added another layer to my thinking  of “what am I doing wrong”.

Today, I realised- a lot. I haven’t spoken to Tigger since early April. Yes, a part of me thinks she should have more of an effort- she didn’t call on my birthday, she didn’t call when she was in Dublin and she didn’t call just ‘cos she wanted to chat- she was busy, I get it but she could have made the effort if she wanted to. But then again, so could have I. I was a little miffed that she didn’t call me for my birthday, I suppose- actually, to be honest, I was very miffed- she would throw a strop if tables were turned and bearing in mind that I was a wee bit conscious of cash and money this year, I would have thought she would have just made the effort.

I also realised I had consciously drawn a line with Ryan- this was mainly to protect myself. I know he is my closest friend and guy who will always be there for me- he is even registered as my next of kin (not sure he knows it but that’s the truth about our friendship- we will always be there for each other) and I also realised he was getting very close to Tigger. I didn’t want him saying anything to her that I didn’t wanna say to her myself. I tell Ryan everything, I am myself with him- more so than not, especially since he is not as black & white the way Tigger is and he understands me. Also, I have a different level of support from the two of them. I felt our understanding of confidentiality was being affected and needed to figure out a way of dealing with it- bring on our catch up. I know he will laugh at me, he will think I am being silly but hey, how I feel is how I feel! It was funny though when I was chatting to him that he said he had an action item on his list to call me- sad but so true- our lives are getting so busy. And to think, this was a guy I spoke to EVERY DAY for 2.5 years!

I am not sure what the story was with Candy- I think it was potentially the fact we were both trying to redefine ourselves, get used to living in our new place, get used to living together. We don’t constantly text, we don’t constantly talk, we don’t have any midnight raves any more but I think that might have all been very intense initially but we do have a laugh, we do talk about almost everything under the sun, we do discuss music and we are still mates.

Basically, the best realisation has been that no matter what, my friends rock and I am very lucky that despite the ups and downs, I know they are there for me. The last 7 months have been tough for me- everything has been viewed from a cynical pair of glasses, I have hardened myself against everyone and everything, I turned inwards to a great extent and went into a self preservation mode- now that things are beginning to fall into place and my plan is coming together, I feel a lot more positive and I am ready to step back into the world and remove a part of the mask again.

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Happy Birthday

A friend of mine, let’s call her Bridezilla as that was the reason we fell out is celebrating her birthday today- knowing her the way I do, she is at home with her husband having a meal cooked and loving him being the doting guy that he is and pampering her rotten and jumping to her every whim- I am delighted she found the man she wanted and I am really glad they are happy.

However, today I realised, the actual form of realising you forgive someone for causing you pain:

And Bridezilla dear, this is for you:

And on your birthday, I realise the importance of having people such as you in my life, so thank you 🙂

And I urge everyone to forgive, “forgive like you have amnesia”

I understand it’s not always easy to forgive but remember it’s a matter of inner strength, a strength that comes from doing the right thing.

And so I would like to extend to her, to anyone else who has hurt me and to the world in general, a blessing- a blessing of happiness, of peace and of constant true smiles!

Forgive, forget, move on ‘cos at the end of the day, life’s too AWESOME 🙂

So, go on, love your life- it’s actually quite simple!

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“One Day”

"I love you so much but I really dislike the person you are 
at the moment"
 "She made you decent and in return, you made her so happy"
 "She was my best friend"

There were just moments in the film that made me think can a man and a woman just be friends, ever?

What is weird though is that it took them 14 years to get together- seriously, at that stage, is it truly love or just companionship? Or is it the latter that one looks for… I mean, I certainly don’t expect “the spark” to last forever and be the only thing- the laughs, the conversations, the discussions are equally important but as we grow older, is it cynicism, is it maturity, is it (yet again) companionship that makes us choose a friend?

I presume, these being questions that have been in the universe forever that answers are going to be few and varied and as such, this shall remain rhetorical.

*Spoiler Alert* Don’t watch the film if you want a romantic ending ‘cos even though it ends on a happy note, the girl dies. What’s the point of making a film where there is no happily ever after?! There is enough tragedy in the real world, at least let the fantasy world be all happy go lucky!

And on a different note- what a coincidence, TSG and I were discussing this film last weekend without realising this was the film ‘cos I hadn’t seen it and he couldn’t remember the name. And if there was ever a relationship that should have been based on the conversations, laughs and spark, that was it but it wasn’t meant to be and today, he is slowly creeping into “my favourite people in the world” list so there, go figure!

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My year as a country-bumpkin!

So, it was just over a year ago, I moved away from Dublin to live in rural Ireland. And what a year it has been! I know for a fact country living is NOT for me- at least not yet. I can see it someday but on my terms and in the manner, I choose. This is not it. Being a “Paki in a fancy car” and standing out as a sore thumb is certainly not how I like to be!

When I moved here, I thought it would be fun, a different experience, challenging yet exciting, For the first 3 months, it was exactly that! Then, I went traveling and when I came back, something had changed- things became weirder at work, I stopped having as much fun and it changed- and all for the worse.

As I mark being a year in the current company, I take stock of all that it has been and I am beginning to wonder if I am in the right place or is it matter of not being here at the right time.

Things going in my favour:

  • I enjoy what I do
  • I am good at what I do- meeting the deadlines today in the office are proof of it
  • I have brought experience to this organisation that few others could
  • I am happy with the role I have- I would love to make a few tweaks to it but I think that will happen in the next while, it’s a matter of me being patient
  • I have learnt to lower my own standards and expect lesser from others- cos few are as driven as me
  • I finally got myself a car
  • I know what I am truly worth and even though I know I am being paid a pittance of that, I can see it being worthwhile in the future

Things that p!ss me off:

  • I live in the f*cking middle of nowhere
  • I have NO friends close by- there are 2 girls I really like but I manage them and so it doesn’t count as I can’t just be the true me with them
  • I am unhappy personally
  • When I get into a half decent relationship, the distance completely kills it
  • I am not closer to knowing if I am on the right path for my life- I am so disillusioned right now that I don’t even know where to start again
  • I am away from my friends- I miss Dr F, I miss Tigger, I miss Candy, I miss Winnie, I miss Spartacus, I miss Crystal, I miss Curly, I miss Daddy Long Legs and yes, most of them are all over the world, if I had a few of them near me, it would make life so much easier

When I count all this, the negatives out number the positives and some of the negatives outweigh everything else.

How in the world am I supposed to not cry myself to sleep every other day when I am this unhappy?! Gosh, I can’t wait for the really busy period in the office to start- at least it will exhilarate me and not give me a chance to think and the end of it means moving back to the land of the living.

Today I had an argument in the office- what a way to celebrate moving here for work, eh. What upset me are so many different things that I don’t even know where to start:

  • I stereotyped a group that I have done for years and slagged them- he took offense and lashed back by saying “J hates everyone” in front of another work colleague
  • I was dismissed and something I wanted to say wasn’t heard- I am a effing partner here and I am treated like sh!t at times, we both need other ways to vent our frustrations

Seriously, why in the world do I feel I am caught between a rock and a hard place?! Is there an end to this in sight?

Why oh why do I after having as many friends as I do miss having a true friend in my life. Oh Winnie, I so, so, so wish  you were here with me. Oh Tigger, I so wish you were here too.

How many times can a person hit rock bottom? How much can a person be tried? How much can my will be tested? What do I need to get out of this rut?!

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Psychic or Designer?!

Sometimes, I wonder if I have psychic powers or if it’s true that even if you think of something you don’t want, you end up getting it ‘cos you are so focused on not messing up…

The other day my best friend got some bad news, something I was expecting to some extent but not something I was prepared for- I was upset about it, maybe even more than him and I wonder if part of it is guilt- guilt at expecting it even though I know/ knew/ believe he deserved to have gotten it actually. I know I am talking in riddles but it’s not my news to share and so I don’t really wanna talk about it.

However, I have since spoken to a few influential people in Ireland and learnt a few things- this country is a lot more about who you know than not, I mean, ALOT more! The perception of who you are is probably more important than your results, sad but true.

This country is too small for comfort at times, everything is public and everyone knows someone- a friend of mine used to work with TSG about 10 yrs ago!

Also, I know my friend’s faults and I realise some of his moves may not have been absolutely right but alas, such is life and he is who he is and I am really proud of him for who he is- warts and all. I know he doesn’t care so much about this but I also know how much it would have meant for him. I so hope someday he gets what he deserves!

On a different note, my psychic abilities fail me in relationships. I know I have only been on 1 date with TSG but we have interacted loads and he is just someone I am very comfortable with. I head away for almost 3.5 weeks to India in a matter of 2 or so weeks and I truly wonder how things will work out- should we go exclusive before, should I let it be, should we talk about it, I am so scared about messing this one up that I really don’t know. I like him, alot, the fact that I will have no interaction for 4 whole days with him is not something I am liking the idea of but c’est la vie… the idea of him potentially being with someone else while I am away is actually not something I like at all and I never thought I was prone to jealousy! Ah, the joys of the initial stirrings (not quite feelings, as Johnny Depp would say ;))

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Hugs

I come from a family of huggers. My friends are huggers. And those that aren’t become huggers, at least around me. To me, a hug is an essential part of a close relationship- and I don’t mean a pat on the back hug but the sort where you really wrap your arms around each other tight and actually share a connection, the sort that makes me feel secure and makes me feel the love. You know what I mean, right?

So research shows that there is a minimum number of hugs people need everyday:

4 for survival

8 for maintenance

12 for growth

And apparently (yeah, still loving the word- deal with it!), hugs have massive advantages, for immunity, depression, stress etc!

I am NOT getting the number of hugs I need to survive on a daily basis- all of you out there, we need to have words.

However, if anything, today made me realise that like most things in life, it is NOT about the quantity, but the quality.

I have had a sh!t day- don’t even get me started, when it rains, it pours and though it pours in all the good ways too, today has been for ALL the wrong reasons- work, men, love, family, college, friends- everything seems to be getting me down.

BUT (and it is a bit BUT because it is worth it and goes back to why I call this post ‘Hugs’)

MY FRIENDS ROCK!! Yeah I know I have said it in the past but I’ll say it again.

– My mate ‘Daddy Long Legs‘- someone I have known for years but only got to know about 3 years ago really well. We have a bit of history but now, it’s just a really strong, solid, good friendship. We don’t see each other as we’d like because we are both such busy beavers- constantly got our fingers in a million pies etc. However, today he knew I was not having a good day and he went out of his way just so he could give me a hug. Love ya, Daddy Long Legs- you are amazing and I love you to bits. Thank you for being there.

– My mate ‘Tigger‘ doesn’t live in the same city as me, but fortunately she comes often and I get to see her more often than I get to see those in the same city, including Daddy Long Legs sometimes! She is also my travel buddy and one of the best mates anyone could ask for. The moment she got a moment, she called me and then she kept letting me know she was there for me whenever I wanted to talk. And in all honesty- she never needs to remind me- her actions speak louder than words- she is always there for me.

– My soulmate ‘Winnie‘- she is someone I have known for over a decade, she makes me laugh, she makes me cry, she makes me angry, she calms me, she travels with me, she plans for me, she drives me insane but she understands me like no one else. She is the one I turn to when I can’t seem to get a grip on myself. Unfortunately, distance keeps us apart and we see each other maybe once a year, if lucky twice but we speak once a week usually and we always have each other in our thoughts. She is a firm believer of the power of chanting (Buddhist chanting) and her first reaction was that she will chant for me. You gotta love Winnie! Thanks Winnie, for being you, for being such a part of me, for understanding me and most importantly, for explaining me to me!

Dr. F is someone who has been mentioned in the past and I suppose a thank you is not complete without recognising his contribution to my optimism today. The moment he knew I needed a friend, he was there- even if only a call away. A call from Dr. F = a smile.

– And my buddy Ryan. He just rocks. He is amazing. He has been trying to sort everything out for me today- I normally speak to him about 5 times a day, today I have spoken to him 5 times an hour! Ryan, we have our differences, we argue, we will be sharing a house, we will be working together (24/7 and not the way we do currently), we hike together, we party together, we hang out, we go road-tripping together, we are a duo, we are bestfriends and I am delighted we fought those many moons ago and decided to meet for coffee to get to know one another. You infuriate me regularly, and yes you do that on a very regular basis but you know I love you to bits and I am delighted our friendship is the way it is. I wish you were near me today because, more than me you deserve a hug and I wish I could give you a proper hug- now that I have finally trained you into it.

– The funny thing is that The Chef was very good and he called me the moment he could- he got himself a puppy today and so couldn’t get him to come to me but the thought was cute.

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Blessed! VERY blessed :)

I am so blessed to have the friends I do in my life. And right now, I feel exceptionally blessed and just wanted to share this feeling.

Went for dinner last night with a lovely guy- beautiful meal, delicious wine (wow!), great dessert, fabulous company and many, many, many laughs. And he has such a cute smile too so it’s all good 😉

Woke up with a massive smile today to hear my mother gush on and on and on about a fruit basket I sent her way- thought it would be nicer than cake for the birthday- healthier, at the very least!! Love the fact that a simple gesture like that can bring such a huge smile to her face.

Tried going back to sleep after getting home (yeah, I scored the friend I fancy- he is still green as are 2 others so the fight is hotting up eh? 😉 I am enjoying this flirting, to be honest!), but got a text off my bestfriend, Dr.F telling us one of our partners in crime is over for the weekend and we are reconvening at our usual spot- I have missed my weekly munches with the boys so much and this news has just tipped me over so much- I love it. I look forward to my melon, the amazingly delicious pizza and may even go for the sticky toffee pudding because well, it is delicious! Ah Romano’s, thank you for the lovely Saturdays. I am delighted the friendship of this set of people has stood the test of time, travel, locations, hardships and I am so so so looking forward to this. But it also means, I can’t sleep now- I am too excited!

And if that wasn’t all, a friend just suggested going to Shrek- what better way to spend a Saturday?

Oh, I am loving life immensely and I feel exceptionally blessed. Thank you world for being so good to me.

P.S. This made me chuckle ALOT!

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Friends!

I think no one (bar Scrooge, maybe and even he changed his thinking eventually) would say that friends are unimportant. I, for one, completely believe that. I have a lot of acquaintances but they are not as important to me as my core set of friends are- whatever part of the world they are in. And they know who they are.

However, I always thought it was more for a personal reason I needed my friends. Being a ‘F’ in Myers Briggs style (ENFP, for those of you who care), I make friends everywhere- in a bus, in an office, in a pub, in a class, in anything. I talk to everything- including walls (yeah, ofcourse I am eccentric, didn’t ya know?). But this article here makes me think that even if I am doing it just because that’s an innate part of who I am, there is actually scientifically reasoning behind it too.

And so, being Friday night and all, I am off to meet a friend I fancy (yup, he’s on the list- the cute engineer) for dinner in this apparently amazing restaurant on Dawson Street – Marco Pierre White.

P.S. How do I fake I am hungry when I only just ate tonnes of carrots, cucumber and hummus for lunch?!

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