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The Feel Better Factor

Over the years, I have come across loads of different types of people. Surprisingly 😉
There are usually ones I warm up to instantly, some I am a bit cagey about and some I can’t tell why I don’t like.

Often, in the ones I don’t like initially, there are a handful who change my mind about them but often, turns out my gut was right. These people have this amazing ability to eventually make you feel better about yourself, have fun with them, trust them and so on and as you start getting comfortable and changing your initial belief about them, BOOM.

They start saying comments that make them feel better about themselves. Now I, for one, am all about the self loving! I love me and I think everyone should love themselves. BUT it’s not doing you or anyone else any good if you can love yourself by putting others down. Their comments may be slightly snide only or they may be masked as advice but never have I come across any that are genuinely helpful.

Over the years, I have been trying to weed such people out of my life and surround myself with those full of love and gratitude, those who don’t compliment me when they don’t want to, those who only advice me when they can add value or when asked and those who genuinely wish me the best.

Down with the frenemies! I wish there was a way to eradicate that gene in every single human.

ego and soul


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Dec 16 Monday: Gratitude

1. Joy
Not just cos it’s my name but I find joy in little things- the bag of chips at the end of a night out, the hug from a friend you haven’t seen in ages, the glimmer of excitement at doing something bold and different, the anticipation of a person’s reaction to something you said or did- they all are a matter of joy!

2. Meditation
Nothing like it when all seems to be becoming too difficult or heavy or too much to handle.

3. Advice
When your friends or family or well wishers give you advice you didn’t have access to otherwise, suggestions on how to tackle things or just share their experience, one realises how lucky they are to have people who care.

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Oldie Goldie Advice

Some old bits of advice:

Sometimes, we just need a reminder.


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… that Terry Pratchett write usually just keep me amused, and thus, out of trouble but this time in his book, a witch is giving a kid advice and I really love the words he used.

This advice is priceless! and it’s yours for free 😉

“If you trust in yourself…

and believe in your dreams…

and follow your star…

you’ll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren’t so lazy.”

So true- sometimes I feel I am putting in so much effort and everyone else puts in much less in comparison and gets better results- maybe I am not as smart as I think I am :s

Fun times- this will keep me awake all night, I suspect!

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Words of wisdom..

One knows they are grown up when they get a text from their mum ending in ‘lady’ and no longer ‘kiddo’, ‘baby’ or anything else implying an age/ maturity inequality!

I’d like to believe the last year’s journey has made me wiser and a better person. I thank all the 20 people who spent every day with me, the 13 lecturers who genuinely cared and added value (not counting those that I thought were utterly useless), the friends who were a call away and my family who made this happen.

So when I get a forward (which normally I delete) with words like these, I feel I need to share some of the soundest advice that makes life even more wonderful-not the lessons one learns in any school but the school of life.

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, ‘I love you,’ mean it.

FIVE.. When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye..

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.

NINE…. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice

TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

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Some Amazing Advice

Over the last 2-3 days, I have been VERY lucky to have had some amazing conversations, met some really cool people and learnt some sound advice, especially on what to bear in mind when in a startup.

The 2 people whose advice I am capturing below are some amazing individuals:

  • BM: A venture capitalist specialising in technology startups. Best known for his/ his company’s involvement in eBay and Bebo and for missing out on Skype.
  • SM: A very out-there sort of a guy whose passion lies in connecting culture and businesses together. He now heads a non-for-profit organisation to bridge the gap between the 2 sides.

Both of them are amazing people and have some awesome ideas, thoughts and experiences, some of the key points are captured below:

  • Know when to replace the entrepreneur with a CEO
  • Have a clear exit strategy- i.e. go public or sell- have a timeline in place
  • Know your cash flow- on a daily basis
  • Have an amazing board that are not involved everyday
  • Let there be NO surprises
  • Have a strong understanding of the different stakeholders and create the organisational identity based on that
  • Collaborate, don’t compete
  • Constantly be aware of the changing landscape around you

On a completely unrelated note, I met up with TS last night and we have both agreed that the timing sucks for us- with him being out of the country so much, and me being out of the city as much and us being together so little but to continue spending time together and hanging out and seeing how it goes. I am absolutely delighted. The others are still on the scene and this party of 4 is certainly very interesting but I am having a great time… Either which way, I hope TS and I can overcome these obstacles because he is still leading my a long shot!

Enjoy the weekend folks- if you are in Ireland, do head towards Dun Laoghaire for the brilliant festival of food, music and good times! Maybe I’ll bump into you there- hopefully the weather will hold!

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Dating woes!

I am supposed to be pretty decent at being rational right, well, I am still a girl and a romantic (shhh, don’t let that cat out of the bag- it’s a secret) at heart!

So, I went out with the cute engineer, let’s call him TS- short for The Scientist, on Friday- had a fabulous night! Everything was amazing- dinner, wine, restaurants, pubs, the city, the conversation, the smiles, the laughs and I am so attracted to his brain- I like the way he thinks. We ended up at his- slept nicely, woke up to a beautiful kiss (and maybe more- I am not telling that bit though- somethings are too sacred to share).

He dropped me home, like a perfect gentleman, and then he went off to his family for the weekend. And when I say family, I don’t mean wife and kids but parents, siblings, grandparents and all that sort of jazz, you crazy minded folks 😛

I sent him a text thanking him for everything and then later on it the day, another one just slagging him about one of our conversations but it’s been over 24 hours and I have had no reply!!!!! I know sending him more will just be stupid- and pointless.

But now I am wracked with numerous doubts:

– Does he like me as much as I like him?

– Did I snore that night (after alchohol, I can tend to) and did that scare him away?

– Is he just in a place without coverage?

– Is he just shy? He is an introvert after all.

– Will I see him again?

So… my options are

a) I do nothing- potentially the most sensible. So if he never contacts, I just write it off?! Really?

b) I text him tomorrow evening suggesting something for Tuesday- we had kinda discussed this possibility but if he really liked me, he would be in touch, right- especially since he was more sober than me!

c) I drop him an email with a link to this song I really wanted him to listen to on Friday but it was too noisy in the pub and then we forgot…

Oh TS, please take me out of my misery!

P.S. It has been SOOOOO long since I felt this way- there is a part of me that’s really enjoying it. Shhh.

And on a completely different wavelength, woke up to this picture on my desktop and it brought back so many memories: the trip, the friendships, the animals, India. I love travels and the joy of traveling 🙂

And on the same note of what I’m loving at the moment- the World Cup Coke ad! Such a catchy song. I am almost reminded of my time at a traditional South African wedding many moons ago with lots of drums, beats, music and celebrations! I repeat, I love travels and the joy of traveling 🙂 And even thought I am supporting Spain (officially), I am for Netherlands now- they seem to be the underdogs! C’mon ORANJE!!!!! Woohoo.

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