Partner, Wife, Lover

These are just three of the things most women want to be to that someone special.

For a very long time, I resisted this thinking- I was always an “I, me, myself” girl and though I wanted a partner, I never thought of it as something I needed. However, as I go through life- climbing through glass ceilings, achieving things other only dream of, living experiences that I have always wanted to, I realise, there is something amazing, something awesome about sharing it with that someone special. Be it the simple magnificence of a beautiful waterfall or the joy of breaking through a glass ceiling or just an ordinary day at work… the idea of having someone to cuddle to is beautiful.

You know, for ages, I didn’t get this need, didn’t understand this want- I thought Sex & The City was a cop-out when they showed how the independent women ended up in relationships and now, I realise why it was so. For ages, I scoffed at other’s desire for that commitment and even though today I would love to have someone to share my life with, I am not keen to settle for anything but the best.

However, I do not understand why the need to have that partner cannot be intertwined with the need to have a successful career. I have an aunt- one of the top female executives in Asia, an entrepreneur, a go-getter- with an amazing family and though, there have been difficulties along the way, the way each one thinks, behaves and understands their role in this world is so beautiful that I am just so proud of them all! I recall, some 4 years ago, my team in one of the top consulting companies in the world and I were having breakfast and we were discussing one of the girl’s pregnancy, when I commented saying “Someday, I would love to be a stay-at-home mom” and everyone turned to look at me, jaws wide open, shock in the eyes. They didn’t think someone like me, always primly dressed in my suit, always perfectly coiffed hair, always calm in the craziest of situation, always driven, always ambitious could have such a simple wish. But just ‘cos I want to have the option of being a stay-at-home mother, it does not mean I want the option of giving up work! I would love a balance of the two- I mean, how is one meant to choose between my two babies?!

Yes, I admit I would love to get married, to have someone to come home to, to have someone make me soup when I have sniffles, to have someone turn to me for support, to have someone love me for who I am, to be a wife, a lover and a partner to that fantastic human being but why do I have to choose between a career that I love and a man that I love. My career understands my need to look after my personal life, so why can’t my personal life understand my career needs?! Why do I feel constantly pulled in two directions, why do I constantly get advised to give up my current position, my current lifestyle and focus more on getting the man I need to be with.

So world, please, let my life unfold the way it is meant to and let me enjoy the path I have chosen. Someday, I will have the life I dream of- with the man I call a husband, with a career I am proud of, with a kid I love, while living and traveling to the locations I want to explore, living the luxury I totally believe I deserve.

I know this is a very haphazard post but in my head, it makes sense!

Love to you, world.