1. Signed a new deal- trial deal it may be but a deal it is! Here’s hoping it gives us the results we need.
2. Got a night in with myself in my own sweet house
3. Caught up with a friend in the other part of the world after ages!
1. Signed a new deal- trial deal it may be but a deal it is! Here’s hoping it gives us the results we need.
We have never worked together yet we feel like we have. It started off as two people meeting at the same event due to circumstances and then because we were both sole traders, we kept bumping into one another and started using each other as sounding boards. Now our paths have diverged but we still do hot chocolates, icecream when the weather allows, lunches, food and always make plans for cocktails!
I am delighted we are friends- if for no other reason then for the sort of texts we shared today which made us laugh, smile and get excited about seeing each other next week!
Cannot wait to catch up!
Today, I was doing a little bit of work on one of my business blogs and I got the most number of likes any of our posts have had!
It reminded me of when I started this blog- little did I know I would have 300+ followers or almost 16,000 views per day- sometimes I consider making this more me and taking it public but I think I will lose the honesty and the space for my rants. I do love this blog and I am truly appreciative of all the emails and the love all of you provide- there have been times I have been shown support from far flung places and corners of the world I wouldn’t have imagined.
This blog has been my strength, my place to hide, my place to shout at the world, my place to scream at certain individuals, my place to love, my place to hope and my place to be me- thank you for being a part of this wonderful journey and making me re-live the first comment, the first like, the first email I ever received from here!
Every so often I have to thank Red for just being so wonderful- wonderfully able to drive me nuts and bring me back down to reality too Thank you, my love.
Having my house all to myself- no dog, no housemates, no partner, no guests and just some me time is something I truly enjoy and cherish when I get it!
I am lucky- simple as!
1. Signed a contract I had been working on
2. Woke up pre 8am 3/5 days- unlike me
3. Managed to meditate when I said I would
There was moments, rare but still, moments that make me angry, furious, depressed, peeved off, p!ssed off, confused all rolled into one and right now is one of them!
Its started last night- I don’t know if it was because I am on a downer from the brilliant news I got yesterday or if it me just being prissy or feeling neglected or me being homesick but I am in an odd phase and I wish I knew what to do- I have jumped, I have meditated, I have read a whole book, I have watched sh!te telly and I am still having the moment I can’t decipher.
Here’s to the rest of the day being better and the weekend being awesome. Love to you all!
As we realised yesterday, this year, we are officially old- we have been a gang of 5 for 10 years! Yes, 10 glorious years of dancing, laughing, eating, drinking, crying and being together. We have stood by each other through thick and thin- you are my strengths and I adore each one of you. But more importantly, we have itched and ached to share each piece of those happy moments with each other before we told anyone else. We have tried various combinations to try and meet up- often unsuccessfully. As life happens, we have less time but not less love. I love each one of you individually, I love the additions to our gang and most important I love us and what we stand for.
Here’s to us dancing into the wee hours in the years to come.
Almost three years ago I bought my first car.
It was not the first car I owned or the first car I drove but it was the first car I bought for myself. And I didn’t buy your usual starter cars, I went straight for the big league even if I was the smallest player in the form of a very starter model of a sports car.
The pride, the sense of achievement I felt was amazing and the fact that it still makes me smile every single I see it makes me extremely happy and makes me realise I must have done something right
Here’s to owning more such items that make me happy- materialistic it may be, emotional it sure is!
I am not even sure this is a term but it is that secure feeling within oneself. I am so glad I have it. When I hang out with others with a lot of the insecurity, I feel it even more!
My near & dear ones
I survived bringing Red to India, spending a whole fortnight with him, introducing him to all my family… I am lucky to have the people in my life that I do!
Sense of Fulfilment
Yup, I was being interviewed recently for my trip to the Antarctic and felt that rush of achievement and fulfilment yet again. An amazing feeling that I wish more people can enjoy!
The other day, one of my many aunts and I were having a conversation on love. She said the 5 things that define long term love are:
- do we like each other’s natural smells?
- do we have fun together?
- do we still want to spend time with each other after a whole load of 24/7s?
- do we know each other’s irritating habits and can we tolerate each other when the other one is angry/ emotional/ irrational?
- do we have a similar value base?
While that may be the practical 5 step guide, I think a simple test is doing something that makes the other person happy a way of making yourself happy? If so, you are in love…
or if that link doesn’t work, it is copied here too:
Men, this is what we women want. (Red- go figure it out)
Women, if you don’t agree, please tell me why!
You know today my mum dragged me to an astrologer who told me I would have multiple marriages! So I asked him to expand on that and he explained that it meant I would have more than one lover (not necessarily simultaneously- I never have!).
This got me thinking back to my first time. I was older than most in my peer group and I was embarrassed of my lack of experience but I am glad I went through with it when I did- it was a beautiful experience then and is still a beautiful experience. My aunt gave me the best advice ever- “It’s genuinely a beautiful and very natural thing if you do it with someone you love!”
Advice from my experience:
- Don’t do it unless you are truly ready and want to do it
- Don’t bow down to society pressure
- Enjoy each moment of it!
- If you are an emotional wreck like me, avoid one night stands
- Lose yourself in the moment
- Don’t force it- let it happen naturally
AND most importantly, truly experience an orgasm- trust me, you will know when you feel it spasm through your body and take your breath away while making you feel more alive than ever!
Be safe and enjoy x
Catch up on Jan 24 achievements:
- Managed to meet most people I wanted to before I flew out
- Packed everything in time with all the shopping I had to do
- Bagged 2 deals I hadn’t completely
Today I cooked a massive meal for some of my Indian friends despite all the issues of not knowing kithcen, not having everything, improvising etc etc etc and it was fantabulous- I especially loved my fudge brownie- gorgeous as it could be!
At the end of the day, nothing is more exciting than using your brain. Over the past few days, I have really had to optimise on certain areas and it has been handy to have a sharp brain!
Nothing, nothing, nothing more glorious than a glass of bubbly in the sun with good friends around you!
Dear Good Guy & Wife,
You are one of the best couples I have seen in my life- so well suited, so happy and so loving. Individually, you are amazing people and together, you are awesome too- never do you make someone else feel like a third wheel and never do you feel that everything has to be done together. Thank you for being 2 of the people I automatically think of in the moment of need, people I think of when I want to just be myself, people I think of when I want to have fun.
You are so warm and so inviting- please stay that way. And keep giving me them warm hugs.
I am SO very glad we are friends and hope we remain so for a good long time ahead of us.
How can this not make one’s day go better:
So Red, this is for you:
I hope everyone can experience love like this at some stage of their lives
I am so glad I do this exercise every week cos it’s actuallyt ough to just sit back and remember something without a trigger.
Today, I am going to remember my first pair of heels.
I have had an inate love for heels ever since I was a kid. I remember the first pair I ever wore were my mum’s- she hated me for it- they were your classic 80s style heels- even if Louboutin do a similar pair now:
And since then, there has been a love affair between heels and me…. I love heels. So much so, the other day Red said “Joy was made for wearing heels”.
For the past few days, I have been trying to read up on oatmeal for the skin and have been opened to amazing new remedies and masks.
Here’s one which has 10 amazing ideas- even though I don’t have acne, I love the idea of basil toner, imagine a little cucumber juice, rose water and apple cider vinegar mixed in.
Also, I never knew how amazing cinnamon really is- I tend to use it alot in my cooking/ baking and for tea but rarely in a air mask!
Amazing stuff in our kitchens, I tell thee- go pamper yourself for cheap!
Also, beauty comes from being healthy so if you have excess weight to lose, here’s some non-dieting tips:
TalentOne cannot do much without talent and it’s great to have some and even better when one is recognised for it!
Ability to Drive
I have driven over 500 miles this month- mostly long distance- it’s been a while since my car was used that much and it’s kinda nice to be able to drive and it’s even nicer to be able to afford the luxury!
I love to cook and recently, I have started loving baking- more because it can be healthy and needn’t be all bad for me! This weekend, I tried a chocolate carrot cake- not completely guilt-free- it has a fair amount of sugar but Oh-so-Good and mostly carrots!
1. First weekend away with Red that was not in a place we both knew or with other people
2. A fabulous meeting last Wednesday- hopefully it will materialise into the change I want
3. Catch up with some few friends I had not seen in a while!
I can’t wait to try these homemade bath bombs!
I heart baths- I used to have one twice a week and I now aim for once a week at least but it doesn’t always work out… however, I do realise, I love my bath time- some soft music, some light reading, a good soak and the feel of a fabulous skin after!
My favourite bath mix personally:
yoghurt or milk
almond oil drops
a wee bitta savlon
a small amount of apple cider vinegar
rose oil or rose petalsfreshly squeezed lemon
Dry brush before you step in and you are that little bit more susceptible to it!
Make me feel like Cleopatra when I step out! Go on, treat yourself.
We met once and became acquaintances.
We crossed paths again and became buddies who had been to the same place at the same time.
We discussed books, culture and had many an argument and somewhere along the line, became mates who do tea/ mate/ coffee/ burritos/ wine/ whatever else we fancy…
Today, I am so glad we are mates and we have the friendship we do- from random nights out to the moments where we try to embarrass each other but more importantly also for the friendship we share.
Thank you for being so important to me now and for being one of the lads!
PS India is a fab country :p
… maybe irrationally, but I am!
The other day I was trying to make some plans with a few friends. 2 friends responded positively. Since then, I worked out the logistics, did some shopping for bits & bobs etc, turned down other plans and so forth… only for them to cancel for other social engagements they agreed to go to! And in all honesty, it actually suits me better but still!
FFS- makes me feel like second rate citizen in their eyes.
On one hand, they are constantly saying they want to be more social, see more of us, hang out with us but on the other hand, more often than not, they cancel.
Ball is totally in their court- no longer am I am going to try and include them in anything.
I am currently having massive issues with the current team of a charity whose board I sit on. The past month has been more painful than a million vaccinations simultaneously- exaggeration, yes!
However, when I look back to the year I was running the organisation, I am reminded of the fun times the 5 of us had- the simple pleasures we found in eating Chinese for lunch, going to Eddie Rockets for supper, dressing up Pimps & Hoes and all the other small things.
It was a year that taught me a lot about myself, about cultures, about people and has moulded me into being the person I am. I so hope the current 5 feel that way a decade on about their year too. I hope the frustrations of today are hopefully forgotten today but the highs of yesterday/ today and tomorrow are remembered with fondness, a feeling of achievement and happiness!
I love to travel. The fact that I have made it to Cork for a weekend already and that I am heading home in a few weeks is a reminder how lucky I am to call two beautiful countries my home.
I caught up with some good old mates in the last while and some new ones- all in all, I am surrounded by some lovely people!
When things seem bleak, days seem dark, there is hope- sometimes in the form of a coffee, sometimes an email but always hope!
So, this started off with me wanting to bake something, coming across a few recipes and combining them to make my own.
.25 cup honey
2 tbsp nutella
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp pepper
1 tsp vanilla extract
1.5 cups oats
.5 cup chopped chocolate
All mixed in well together, baked for a good 40-50 mins at 180 degree Celsius.
And it worked! It tasted good but it was a wee bit soft and there were too many flavours to enjoy any one but they all mixed well together.
Here’s a few ideas to make it different:
1. Add 2 tbsp more nutella, remove the egg, add .5 cup more oats2. Add more carrots, no nutella, no honey
I am really keen to try option 2 myself- someday, I shall have to make it now!
Apparently I can make a frosting using avocado whipped with cocoa powder to top it all, if I so wish!
1. Made up by own recipe for a brownie and it almost works- needs a little bit of tweaking (to follow)
2. Ate healthy all week
3. Saw 6 movies in 8 days
Hey big guy
I have known you for almost as long as I have been in this country. We started off colleagues, became friends and then drifted apart. We still see each other, we still talk but I no longer confide in you. Thank you for teaching me the art of being there for someone while keeping the distance- it has been very good for me personally and professionally.
I look forward to our coffee in a few hours.
As I am trying to organise a holiday with Red, I remember the rush I had for the first time I organised a holiday for a bunch of people- it was in 2004 for New York with 2 colleagues on our way to a work thing in Chicago.
I had organised many others but that was the first of the epic ones I did and paid for myself- the excitement of organising such a holiday is almost as much as visiting the place itself. It gets my adrenaline flowing, makes me happy and reminds me of the joy of traveling!
So in 2014 peeps, please get out of the city at least once. Go on an adventure, do something new, get excited and surprise yourself GO!
Nothing like a good sleep to get your mood in the upbeat form and you ready to take on the world.
I just spent a mini fortune on food that’s good for me- I am looking forward to tucking into it and getting healthier!
Prunes, plums, dates, apricots, figs, apples, bananas and some sugarfree/ gluten free/ dairy free bars, coconut water- now to incorporate it into everyday eating!
Idleness, not that I have had a chance to experience it in ages, is irritating and so the counterpart would be busy but doing work sounds better and is genuinely more fun!
Monday, Dec 30- Gratitude:
- Gifts- I chose them well and I made people happy, I think
- My own bed- Nothing like a few nights in one’s own bed
- Happiness- never to be taken for granted!
Tuesday, Dec 31- A Beautiful Moment
Undoubtedly, drinking on the Pondicherry promenade from juice bottles and enjoying the fresh breeze and the fab moment of peace and pure, unadulterated fun!
Wednesday, Jan 1- The Future
The things I want to achieve this year come down to health, love, a better residence and business.
Thursday, Jan 2- Letter
To My Paternal Granny
I saw your pics at my cousin’s wedding recently and I realised how time has gone by- you have changed, you are now much older than I recall and yet, there is a certain inner peace about you- it is good, it is nice to see you happy. Many of my memories of you are just surviving while you moved from one son to another but since you moved on your own, you are happy and I hope everyone finds such peace and happiness in their lives, despite all the obstacles. In your own way, you taught me independence, the need to enjoy the odd sugar parantha with cream, the acceptance of a changed world and the need to constantly keep adapting. I see you rarely, I speak to you less than I should but in no way does this mean I love or respect any less. Thank you for being the influence that you are.
Friday, Jan 3- The Week Gone By
- Cooked a 6 course dinner with Red for our friends
- Caught up on work that I had been postponing for a while…
- Balanced the sheets for the year gone by!
So, as 2013 ends up, I remember the words I said at the beginning of the year: “it promises to be full of promise, optimism, results and achievements!” AND…. I was right- 2013 has been a fantastic year, a year of fun, a year of partying, a year of adventures, a year of learning, a year of love and a year with many laughs. I have had a great year. Thank you 2013.
And hello 2014.
2013 was my ‘foundation year’- it was the turning point year after the terribleness that was 2012. I didn’t like that year and 2013 made it you didn’t leave with the same taste in my mouth. However, I think 2014 has more exciting, even bolder things in store for me. I feel 2014 could be THE year- the year that will really and truly define what I have been working towards for a very long time and if it isn’t, it will almost definitely be the year that will take me closer to it- personally, professionally, emotionally, spiritually.
I cannot wait to embrace you closer to me 2014- it’s gonna be a helluva ride so tighten up that seatbelt and kick it off already
In Jan 2013, I told Moo that this was the year I wanted to fall in love just to know I could and that I had really, truly moved on and guess what, I did.
2013 has been a good year, a tough year, a fun year, an enlightening year but most importantly- an amazing year ‘cos of Red. He has totally taken me by surprise and I am absolutely over the moon we are so happy and so strong.
HAPPY NEW YEAR all!!
Dec 23: Gratitude:
- Savings- I managed to spend loads and save the aimed amount
- Love- tis the season
- Liver- read above
Dec 24: Moment:
My first Christmases- in India, in school, in Ireland, hosting, with Snoopy, with Ryan’s family, with friends at Ryan’s family and now added in, Red’s
Dec 26: Letter- read post below
Dec 27: Week Gone By:
- Survived Christmas- think my presents went well and I was definitely spoilt by the ones I got!
- Got comfortable in Red’s family home to an extent where I didn’t constantly feel the need to be on guard.
- Got some major deadlines met despite all the obstacles!
This article written by Brad Pitt really irked me- no woman is a reflection of her man- yes, her man and any other person in her life can affect her love and self confidence but herself is not a reflection of him but of how he may make her feel! At the end of the day, each person is an individual and so it should remain!!! Any one who thinks their happiness is dependent on another person, get a grip and anyone who thinks they hold the key to someone else’s happiness, come back down to earth- we are all responsible for our own happiness, we give others the power to make us happy- they don’t have it automatically!
A person is lucky if they have one loving parent- I am absolutely delighted I have two. You have been there for me through thick and thin- things may have been tough between your blood son and foster daughter at times but you never took sides or got involved and loved us both the same. You have given me a safety net when I needed it, a cuddle when I am tired, a kick up my backside when I needed it, a dose of truth when I am being stubborn, a pull back to earth when I went into fancy land and love all the time. I am so very lucky to have a family at yours and to always have a place on your dinner table- at events or just ‘cos. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I love you loads and am so fortunate to have a friend and a parent in you. My favourite Christmas present this year was the look of delight on your face when you saw what I got for you- that made my day, my week, my month and probably, my whole year. It captured why I do what I do.
1. Wrapped all my presents
2. Delivered all the packages to the customers in time for Christmas
3. Got a call I didn’t expect!
You are probably one of my oldest male best friends and I am so you are a part of my life in whatever form it is. We have seen our differences, we have seen each other through broken hearts, crushes, stupid moments, family holidays and shared many good moments. We went through our bumpy patches, our confusion between platonic and romance, our difference of opinions on certain life matters but through it all, we remained friends. I see you once a year if I am very lucky, I see you and the whole family if I am luckier- I slag you, you slag me; I laugh with you, you laugh with me; I share my concerns with you, you share yours with me- through everything, we are friends. I miss our chats and I look forward to lying on a balcony in the summer, drinking beer and eating cherries some night while gazing at the stars!
Many balloons to you!
So, today I was trying to remember something I haven’t talked about but means a lot to me and with the fact that I am wiped out after the presents shopping etc, I had to talk of presents!
The one present I remember, very weirdly is a pair of red shoes I got when I was about 7. I had tonnes of other brilliant presents but this one stands out for some reason and I have no clue why!! I remember having to give my shoe size to my uncle by standing on a sheet of paper and him bringing me back shoes based on that!
I wore those shoes all the time, even when they didn’t match and even when it was inappropriate for the occasion- I suppose that is where the love for shoes must have kicked off
I was out for dinner with Daddy Long Legs earlier today and I realised 2 very important things about why I am so much happier in this relationship than I have ever been in the past. I do realise I may have already said these but it’s always good to have a new reminder
1. We are two individuals. We go out with others, meet others, talk to different people, acknowledge the presence of the other person but don’t necessarily talk to the other person. When together, we are a unit- we are a strong couple, we deal with our issues and we can be a team when needed but to us our individualities are important. Yes, I am Red’s girlfriend and yes he is my boyfriend (ugh, hate those terms) but we are different people and hope to continue to remain so.
2. He grounds me. I go into flights of fancy and even though he joins me, he adds an elements of practicality. Similarly, he goes off into his flights of fancy and lets me join me. Together we both continue being our mad, quirky selves while knowing when to put a stop for the other person. Well, at least I hope I do the same for him.
Yes, they are not new, they are exclusive to us but they are very important to me and I am glad I got those two! A third but not so important but still fairly important is the fact that he can go from moshing with me in a dirty pit to scrubbing up for a black tie event, if needs be and knows how to hold his own in both those situations.
But the one reason that is not as practical yet overpowers them all is that he makes me laugh.
Not just cos it’s my name but I find joy in little things- the bag of chips at the end of a night out, the hug from a friend you haven’t seen in ages, the glimmer of excitement at doing something bold and different, the anticipation of a person’s reaction to something you said or did- they all are a matter of joy!
Nothing like it when all seems to be becoming too difficult or heavy or too much to handle.
When your friends or family or well wishers give you advice you didn’t have access to otherwise, suggestions on how to tackle things or just share their experience, one realises how lucky they are to have people who care.
Last night was the sort of night every one needs once in a while- a bunch of motley mates, loads of alcohol, huge amounts of craic.
And then sometimes, you need nights like tonight- a simple chat with an old friend, a bit of play time with a nephew, some home truths and discussions, a drive in your car, a glimpse of the meteors, a Bollywood film, texting with Red.
2 extremes, 2 beautiful memories, 2 fantastic evenings- life is good.
1. Had a fabulous night out with my friends
2. Had a great week and some amazing alone time with Red
3. Signed a huge deal and set up a few important meetings- fingers crossed it all works out