Sep 4, Thursday: Letter

Dear DDT

I don’t really know you, I don’t have any relationship with you but I love the advice you give, the way you keep pushing me, the way you share your experiences.

Thank you. I love you, I forgive, I thank you, I am sorry.

Love
Joy.

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WOW!

In the last 30 days!

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Pretty darn awesome for a random blog. Amazed at you all for reading my rambles- thanks!

 

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Sep 2, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Many years ago, Tigger and I were coming back from a party in a taxi just before we embarked on our adventure around Peru and Ecuador. I remember her turning to me, giving me a hug and telling me how much she loved me, cared for me and how I was her closest friend.

Over the years, we became closer, and then we drifted apart, we had our differences but we patched them away. We may have both gone through our phases of not being the happiest with our friendship but times like yesterday, times like the moment in the car, times like sipping pisco sours on the boat in the galapagos remind me of what we have shared.

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Sep 1, Monday: Gratitude

1. Hugs
I heart hugs. I heart good hugs. Having people who give me good hugs in my life is an awesome thing and I am so glad I have such people around me.

2. Friends and Family
Been a while since I said how lucky I am to have these peeps in my life!

3. Wind in the Hair
The feeling of wind in the hair, the feeling of free-ness, the feeling of joy… yes, yes, yes!

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Aug 29, Fri: Weekly Achievements

1. Started  on a huge path of thanking people who have upset me and recognising their efforts in making me the person I am today
2. A couple of fantastic orders in work that were totally unexpected!
3. Am almost ready for the holidays starting next week.

I might have intermittent updates for the next while peeps- apologies!

Have fun and stay happy xxx

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Aug 28, Thursday: Letter

Dear Jingles

When I first met you, I wasn’t sure you were the right person for my brother. You went on to convince me otherwise.

You then went on to become a good friend to me too. However, somewhere along the path, we diverged, for all the right reasons.

Recently you said something to me that hurt me deeply- it was beyond nasty and it showed the streak in you that I always suspected.

I thank you for bringing happiness to my brother’s life, I thank your for teaching me to trust my gut, I thank you for the civility we accord each other and I thank you for keeping your distance from me.

All the best. Love,
Joy.

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Emotion…

Often, we take emotion for granted.
Often, we ignore the importance of emotion.
Most important, we refuse to acknowledge the impact of emotion on our body.

Good emotion lets us recover quickly, makes us happy, is good for health and lowers stress levels.
Conversely, the bad emotion brings us down and has a very strong negative impact on all levels.

I hadn’t realised how much I needed to nurture my soul again till I moved houses, changed the way I work, had some dates with myself and realised how certain things are just so important to me:

- finer things in life that are enjoyed, not abused
– cleanliness- messy is different to dirt
– soulful things- I had gotten back into the habit of doing a lot of things
– leading by the heart- every so often I need to let the head lose
– relaxing- putting my feet up, watching a movie, reading a book, having a good cup of hot chocolate- all these things are just so important and nice :)

It’s amazing how one tiny change opens up so much!

be soft

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Aug 26, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Years ago, I was in Canada with 600 odd other people. Some of them became good friends, others and I kept in touch thanks to Facebook and few of us have become good friends. Recently I met one of those people and it was so good to be sipping coffee one saturday afternoon, swapping stories of then and sharing experiences of the now. There was no awkwardness, there was no oddness, there was just a simple shared understanding of a global world and the issues of keeping in regular contact, there was just pure friendship.

I love the memories from 12 years ago and I love the memory I made on Saturday.

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Aug 25, Monday: Gratitude

1. Hosting 
A party, a dinner, a cup of tea- whatever it may be, I like to host and I like to be able to host it with grace and class. I like giving people good things to eat/ drink and I want to make sure everyone has a good time!

2. Sex
A necessity. Enough said.

3. Possibilities
Every couple of days, one realises how many possibilities there truly exist and I am glad to say I can take advantage of so many! I love it and am glad to have this sense of optimism, the knack to recognise the opportunities and the ability to dream of the possibilities!

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Date with Self

Today, I cancelled on various different plans. Plans so I could spend some time with ME.

I was feeling cranky, a little tired and just in need to some TLC- I had a long bath, cooked myself a lovely salmon meal and finally indulged in Nutella with Butlers Hot Chocolate followed by a whole tub of Ben & Jerry’s.

Sometimes, it’s got be done.

Here’s to having had 3 days with myself this week- what an amazing feeling! :)

you are amazing

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Aug 22, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. 2 fabulously healthy and tasty meals
2. 3 days of over 10,000 steps walked
3. Certain deadlines for work met!

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Winds of Change

I feel the winds of change blowing- don’t ask me why, don’t ask me how. I don’t know the details but…

I feel a shift- a shift towards a more peaceful me
I feel a calmness- a calm that is not pre storm but the calm of positivity
I feel an excitement- an excitement of what is coming
I feel content- content knowing I have done my best and the future is exciting as can be

I am impatient, I am like a kid waiting for their birthday presents, I want the changes, I want to feel the wind and I am really really really looking forward to it!

serenity

Did I say really?! ;) I truly, really AM! Woohoo!

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Aug 21, Thursday: Letter

Dear Intern

Thanks for being a part of my life. We both hoped this would have worked better but alas, chest la vie. I am glad in the process we became good friends and I hope to continue that.

Thanks for your help, thanks for your honesty and thanks for your energy!

I wish you luck with your endeavours.

Love,
Joy.

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Aug 19, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Years ago, not sure how, Freud and I started our little bi-annual tradition of me taking him shopping to fix his wardrobe! Now bear in mind, he is a very fashion conscious young man and I well, know nothing, of fashion but he seems to think I understand style so well…

Anyhow, there was this one time- he was under pressure to get an outfit for a wedding and I was very keen to read a book so every time he went into the changing rooms to change, I used to sit in a cubicle (if it wasn’t very busy, obviously!) reading my book. It was a fun day trying to operate between the two worlds and I am so glad I did it- where there’s a will, there’s a way.

I only hope I have similar energy later today when I need to catch up on work!

:) Happy tuesday, all.

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Aug 18, Monday: Gratitude

1. Adventures
Life without adventures makes for no fun- be it a day trip to get a view from a lighthouse and a tour of a haunted house to making up a dish with absolutely no experience in it or anything!

2. Budgetting
To plan financially ahead, to take charge of my life and to be able to get the most with very little compromise.

3. Good Housemates
Yes, they have faults but after a few not so great experiences, it is nice to be with some fun people again!

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India/ Pak Independence Days

Aug 14, Letter

Dear Matryoshka,

When I first met, I was excited about what you meant for my friend but the more I got to know you, the less I cared for you. The more we talked, the less I respected you. The more I saw your actions, the less I gave a damn. I do thank you for being a part of my life and teaching me how much I can pity someone. I do thank you for being a part of my life and teaching me the true meaning of manipulation and reminding me why my cynicism is actually a good thing. I do thank you for teaching me the power of confidence, security and love. And I thank you most for disliking me the way you do cos it means I am spared of being in your destructive path. Please go get counselling before it is too late and you lose the bit in you that actually means well!

Thank you- I love you, I forgive you and I am sorry.

Go in peace,
Joy.

August 15, Weekly Achievements

1. A really good meeting with a person I hadn’t met in ages
2. Almost finished unpacking
3. Gotten back into the swing of walking

 

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Relations, Decisions, Ownership…

You know, life is a funny curve- no matter what, the other side seems greener! This is in no means an admission that you aren’t happy but maybe not always satisfied… I am in a really good place, life is fantastic and everything seems to be working out just the way I want it to AND I love it!

And then there are the tough decisions that no matter what the result, even if it what you want it to be, it doesn’t make for easy discussions or easy journeys to a decision. I somehow seem to be caught bang in the middle of three massive decisions, of which none is immediate so therefore tonnes of hypotheticals being built in one’s head and no real action as it is impossible to do so.

The decisions of owning certain assets together, the decisions of the right time to have kids, the decision to adopt kids, the decision of where to live, the decision of moving to different continents for one’s career, the decision to plan holidays around certain big events that mean a lot to one person, the decision to share the responsibility of a pet, the decisions that would potentially be easy when in the thick of things but tricky when you have time to think…

Oh for just a few moments I wish I was single and carefree but the support, the love, the laughter and mostly, the silliness, I will put up with this all this growing up jazz that gets thrown our way. 

Sigh!

Finding your kind of crazy

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Aug 12, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

A few nights ago, Red made me feel like a very lucky lady- he did nothing special, nothing out of the ordinary but his everyday self made me realise how lucky I am to have his support and his love.

I remember the first time I felt that way- years ago, when SL and I were together, he used to drive 4 hours just to give me a hug and be there for/ with me.

This post is to all those moments where I have been made to believe in the true power of unconditional love.

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Aug 11, Monday: Gratitude

1. Love
I am lucky- lucky to be loved the way I am, lucky to love the people I do, lucky to have the love in my life. Love is like oxygen and I am so very lucky to have it in my life. And yes, I still want a puppy for the unconditional love too!

2. Money
When things are slightly tough and tight, being able to spend money is a plus. In fact, I started a treat wallet for myself- I need to put in it the leftover from my budget every week and can only spend it on extravagance- nothing like just a weekend away or festivals or anything- a designer pair of shoes, bags or spa break kinda thing. I am looking forward to making the most of this for myself.

3. Visualise
Being able to imagine things in my brain about they would look and then seeing them work out is always good. A simple example is my new room and the way I visualised it is very different to the way anyone else would have used it! Being different is also something to be grateful for but seeing a visualised concept taking shape is way cooler :)

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Aug 8, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Bought new shoes
2. Had a wonderful evening meeting two wonderful ladies last night
3. Moved into the new home and slept like a baby 2 nights

Bonus: Learnt a new meditation technique that is truly helping me loads.

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Aug 7, Thursday: Letter

Dear New Housemates

We have been housemates since Friday technically but I think the tea in the living room, reading the paper and playing jenga, while planning bunting and tea lights calls for a special moment. I am glad to be living with people who enjoy the odd glass of wine, a good cuppa but most of all, the laughs and the fun.

Here’s to a wonderful time together ahead of us!

Love,
Joy.

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Keeping Up!

B!tch alert! If you are trying to be positive, stop reading NOW! I am just sharing thoughts about some ideas in my head that may not be very nice when down on paper…

I have begun to realise amongst a LOT of my friends (unfortunately, friends and not acquaintances!) that there is a certain tendency to “keep up with the society and expectations”- sad but true.

Case 1: 2 people who had no interest in each other, had nothing in common, decided they wanted to be in relationships that society approved of- now married.

Case 2: 2 people who met online for a date and some years ago, married within a year. Unhappy but staying together cos they are afraid of being alone.

Case 3: 2 people so scared to admit that their friends were wrong are staying together to prove everyone wrong.

When did we forget to put our happiness as the primary reason to get married?!

cos you join my weirdness

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Aug 5, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Last week I went to see a play about the lady who was brutally assaulted in many ways in Delhi a few years ago. I was upset and disturbed on many levels- not the fact that I used to do that route many times, not the fact that it was less than 5km from my house, not the fact that it could have been anyone I know but the fact that there are so many others who don’t speak up and go through it every single day, globally.

The day I spoke up about my experiences, the day I took charge of them and didn’t wear them as a badge of shame, the day I accepted it was a beautiful moment- it took me years to get to it but when I did, I am glad I did!

To the men who had a part in this- you have been forgiven but not forgotten and I certainly wish no woman in your family has to endure this!

All the best.

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Aug 1, Weekly Achievement and Aug 4, Gratitude

Aug 1, Friday: Weekly Achievements:

1. Spent a lot of time walking, playing, hanging out with a dog
2. Had a great time with my new housemates
3. Managed to get an outfit ready for a wedding with very little available to me

Aug 4, Monday: Gratitude:

Youth
How I miss those days- we take it for granted but I am certainly beginning to feel the changes and am definitely older. With it comes wisdom, the ability to not drink as much, the post party fatigue but I have to be grateful for the youth I have enjoyed and for the fun I still enjoy when I behave more youthful than I should.

Dogs
You gotta love these furry creatures. They love you in ways that one cannot even imagine! They are awesome.

Ability to forgive
Being compassionate is not always easy, being able to forgive even less so and I am glad that I find it easy to forgive people in order to move on!

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July 31, Thursday: Letter

Dear person from mar 6/ Colleague,

We have become good mates over the years but I would have never considered us extremely close but you opening up your house, your dog, your trust to me so wonderfully at a time of need is something I will never forget. It has been an absolute pleasure the past few weeks and even though you were personally not here, it has taken our friendship to a brand new level and I look forward to the change in our friendship.

I especially look forward to walking the dog, playing with her and having a great time with her. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Love,
Joy.

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Jul 29, Tuesday: A Brilliant Moment

A few days ago, marked 6 years to me being free- free of the shackles I had as an Indian female, free from the beliefs the society had ingrained in me and free to do things my way.

However, as I was reflecting on that, I was reminded of the day I was asked by TL to marry him. It was a wonderful moment- that conversation was one of my favourites- we talked of dreams, we talked of hopes, we talked of future, we talked of the past and we were very much in the present. That moment, that feeling of pure happiness, that love, that- yeah that, was a wonderful moment.

For those of you who have just gotten married and engaged in the last while, I hope you recall that moment forever. Love be with you.

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Jul 28, Monday: Gratitude

1. Realisations 
– Realisation of my feelings about certain things and being honest about them, at leas tot myself and maybe one close friend
– Realisation that for some people t isn’t about you but it is not about them
– Realisation that meditation truly is a force to reckon with

2. Weddings
I am not a huge fan of weddings, especially having escaped some potential ones I could have been embroiled in! But that’s not to say I don’t enjoy the excitement around them, the joy of sharing someone’s special moment, the severity of the promise and all the craic around it. With a family wedding on the horizon, I am absolutely over the moon and can’t wait to get home for it!

3. Tears
They are not a way of pride but letting them out of the system is always a good idea and I am glad at my ability to let them flow- I just prefer to do it in own privacy!

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Granted!

Today, I felt a feeling that I hadn’t felt in a while. To some extent, I wonder if the past has made me pick up on it sooner than not.

For the past 2/3 weeks, I have felt everyone around me seems to presume I will always be around and I am able to do everything in a jiffy, with no help and with no drop in standards. Earlier today, it got to me so much that I absolutely broke down and cried. The sort of cry I needed but not the sort of cry I could blame on alcohol or hormones.

I also realised I am very sensitive to fatigue and hunger… those two individually are dangerous when associated with me but together more so.

However, what I am proud of is nipping the feeling in the bud by ensuring I told the people I cared enough about exactly what I feel and asking them to cop on! Here’s hoping the words have been heard and the change is coming.

Additionally, after 6 years, I am amazed that I still feel a slight twinge about TL. A part of me goes to ‘what if’, another wonders if I will ever get married and I question my ability to ever commit, especially in the wake of the number of engagements happening around me… weird how our heads and emotions work…

cherish the little things

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Jul 25, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Made at least 4 desserts for the first time and cooked most meals at home
2. Fixed a strong work strategy I needed to
3. Got an epic wedding present for a wedding I am attending

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Jul 24, Thursday: Letter

Dear A

it’s off after so many years you feature in my thoughts but you do. We had friends in common when you came into my life even though that’s not how we met. We liked the same guys and shared stories on crushes, discussed all things teenage and became friends till you started accusing me of sabotaging your school career least realising I did nothing as I really couldn’t be arsed to and because I was too naive to be manipulative! I wish we hadn’t parted on such terrible terms.

We ended up in college together and people assumed we were besties. We tried hard but neither of us was willing to let the ego go- today, I wish we could sit and enjoy a coffee so next time you are looking down over earth, raise me a toast and I will respond!

The world is a sadder place without you. Glad our paths crossed.
Love,
Joy

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Jul 22, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Yesterday, friends and I were talking of pets and I was reminded of a moment with my first dog ever.

We were out playing one evening as we did almost every day- rain, sunshine, wind- nothing stopped us going out (much to the adults’ frustration!). It was during the  monsoons and there were frogs EVERYWHERE! The dog being curious, decided to eat a frog- in reality, she only swallowed it. The memory of her retching up a few minutes ago is not very pretty but the look of confusion on her face, the look of amazement of my friends and me is something I would never forget- ‘cos as she was throwing up, the frog came out and leaped away as if nothing had happened.

Some 20+ years on, I still wonder if that scarred the poor frog for life!

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Foodie Notes!

1. Plum Cake: http://www.eatlivegrowpaleo.com/2012/10/plum-cake.html

Make it tastier by stewing the plums in a wee bit of rum before putting it on the pastry mixture.
Use the rum and plum juice mix and only add more sugar if it doesn’t add up to the size requirement for the glaze topping.
Don’t use liquid butter when making the crumble mixture- much nicer to mix with wet as the consistency is more airy in the end due to the extra whipping.

2. Banana Bread: http://wholelifestylenutrition.com/recipes/organic-banana-nut-bread-recipe/

Add some cinnamon in the banana while blending it.
Mix the walnuts after the banana.
Make it muffin tins to be able to freeze it in small portions for longer lasting tastiness.

Nom nom nom- best of it all, fairly healthy!

 

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Jul 21, Monday: Gratitude

1. Creative Mind
Not mine necessarily but people with creative minds around me! It’s always good to have them about :)  They definitely see things differently!

2. Desserts
There are times when all you want are sweets, sweets and more sweets and when you get healthier versions of them, even better!

3. Sanity
Let’s never take it for granted, sigh. So glad when I find mind every time I lose it- which is regularly enough!

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Jul 18, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Cooked up a storm!
2. Got myself a good lead in work.
3. May have found a new spot to live too!

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Jul 17, Thursday: Letter

As I go around looking for places and new housemates, I have often found my mind wandering back towards N

Dear N,

When we met, little did we know, we would end up traveling to different continents, becoming good friends, seeing each other grow through life and just change as people. We had our moments, we had our disagreements, we had our issues but more often, we had our fun, we had our cinema dates, we had chats, we shared thoughts. Over the years, life has happened, we don’t get to see each other as often as we would like but that is not to say, our friendship is any lesser.

I am delighted you are with the woman you love and together you have a beautiful daughter. I look forward to our next catch up soon and I can only hope, I get housemates as caring, as easy going, as intelligent, as interesting as you.

Thank you for your friendship this past decade- it’s been some ride!

Love,
Joy.

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Keep it SIMPLE!

Life, that is!

simple life copy

Don’t complicate it, just do it!

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Jul 15, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Today, I am minding a friend’s house while she is on holidays and at the same time, keeping an eye on her dog- playing, grooming, feeding, walking- you know the drill.

I was reminded the first time I did it 14 years ago- I was so naive, I didn’t know the rules and the non rules, I didn’t know what to take and not take etc etc etc- I thought over the years, I had matured but turns out…. I really haven’t- I am still not sure what the rules of the game are!

I do know all her spices and kitchen are mine, I brought my own bar with me and have locked the offices and their personal space up- fair enough, yeah? If I leave them with cookies when they arrive and a bottle of bubbles in the fridge, they can have a bitta treat coming home too… and flowers, obviously. That’s right, yeah?

Either way, I love the fact that these moments also remind me how much my friends trust me and care for me. I am totally overjoyed by it all!

That’s for my Tuesday moment. A decade on but still naive ;)

Love x

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Jul 14, Monday: Weekly Gratitude

R&R:
I spent the weekend chilling, having coffees, being a girl about town and then, getting myself pampered with dry relaxation, facial, massage etc (I still miss Monart!!). Sometimes, being a work widow is an awesome thing!

Maturity:
In the last few months, read years, I think I have grown in numerous ways- most of all, in my expectations. I feel, I have become a better person for it and I am glad I am able to admit to it without feeling guilty. Thank you blog, friends, everyone I have interacted with, life.

Resilience:
Every time I wanna give up something, I hang in there and I push myself that little bit more and I am glad I do. I look forward to seeing the results in the things that really matter in the future!

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The good, the bad, the ugly

Today was an interesting start to the day!

The good: A friend I am very fond of got engaged.

The bad: Another friend I am very fond of passed away unexpectedly.

The ugly: When I heard the news re the engagement, I did wonder “why them- since they started after Red and I did”. This upset me, hurt me and is something I just don’t like :( I am not sure why I felt this way either- it is disturbing me. (Red, if you are reading this- it is not a veiled hint!)

Definition of tomorrow

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Jul 11, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Stood my ground about finding a nice spot than just choosing one for the sake of it!
2. Caught up with a few friends I genuinely wanted to after ages
3. Got another media slot in a country I wasn’t even focusing in!

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Jul 10, Thursday: Letter

Dear Mum

I am really missing you- despite your ability to drive me absolutely up the wall, despite your knack to ensure whatever you say is misunderstood by me, despite your love for everything we disagree on. I love you.

Thank you for everything, especially the points made above- they are what make you you.

Love,
Joy.

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Life… today and tomorrow.

Today, I woke up feeling absolutely amazing!

I have had an interesting year- loads done but nothing really achieved.
I have learnt a lot of things- some new, some again, some already forgotten.
I have grown.

Any year I can say that, I feel good about myself. (This is an easy way to boost my own ego- cos every year one learns!)

However, for the first time in years, I feel I know what I want- really, truly know.

I have a clear idea of the sort of life I want.
I have a clear idea about the people I want in my life.
I have a clear idea with regards the sort of places I want to go to.
I have a clear idea.

It feels absolutely awesome too :)

yesterday, today, tomorrow... now

 

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July 8, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Yesterday, I called over to a friend’s to meet her dog, see her house and get a feel of their life to mind their place during their holidays. When I walked in, the dog came up to me and instantly we were the best of friends. She is a young pup, lean and tall and very cute- made me want a dog instantly!

However, it really made me miss my childhood dog- the only dog that I ever rode as a horse, the only dog that let me believe I was in charge when I clearly isn’t, the only dog that shared her bowl of water with me, the only dog who ever heard me cry (& then called my mother- I was a soft crier!), the only dog that was well and truly mine. I miss you, beautiful young mad thing- I love you still. Thanks for the beautiful memories.

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“It’s not you, it’s me”

Classic break up line all right but is that all it is? Or is there some truth in there?

Since 2010, I have lived with 2 separate friends and in each, I have initiated a change in our relationship- whether it was colleagues, housemates, business partners, etc. Both of them were my best friends when it started but somehow I felt like I had been through a break up each time!

(Somehow, romantic breakups are easier to take!)

I decided to take a moment to step back, reflect and see what the learning in this was- after all, losing friends is never fun. In both scenarios, I still consider them friends and will be there for them, should they reach out.

1. Court a friendship: If a friend is not interested in responding to your courting attempts, take the hint!
2. Know your boundaries: When we start dating, we know what we wouldn’t take for in our partners. Similarly, know the boundaries and when you are not feeling the love, distance yourself.
3. Stick to your morals: I believe in friendship forever, I do believe it transitions shape and form through the years. So if a person has been a friend and we haven’t had a falling out, I will always do my best to be there for them.
4. Quality time: The BIGGEST thing to me. In both those cases, we were spending a lot of time together but never truly quality time. Sometimes it is about the time together, doing something different, experiencing a new activity or whatever else!

After having spoken to friends who have known me a lot longer, a lot shorter, a lot better, only a little, I feel no one is ever at fault- I am sure I did something to upset them for them to stop considering me a friend or showing me the love at least but I hope that in the process, no one was really hurt!

Enemy vs friend

Reach out and let your friends know you care!

 

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Jul 7, Monday: Gratitude

1. Inclusion
Every relationship has some level of inclusion in the other person’s life. I have been included in many others deviously but the way Red has included me in his was very evident this weekend, where I spent the whole weekend living his life and not really mine. But to have never felt an interloper, to have never felt an intruder, to have never felt like I was walking on egg shells but to have felt like an equal whose wishes and considerations were being taken into account is a pretty awesome way to be! Thanks for the way you have made me a part of your life by making it our life.

2. Dogs
Ever since I moved out of my previous house, I have really missed Candy’s dog- despite her silliness, despite her laziness, despite everything else, she was pretty awesome and I miss hanging out with her. I spent the weekend with 2 crazy spaniels and am gonna mind a German Shephard for a friend for 2.5 weeks- very excited!

3. Dragons
Went to see ‘How to train a dragon 2′ last night and I am in love with dragons all over again! I love them dragons- cute, fire spitting, flying machines that they are.

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Jul 4, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Caught up with a few friends after ages
2. Made peace with certain people that had really being managing to get my goat for the past while
3. Got me some good deals!

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Jul 3, Thursday: Letter

Dear Candy

For the week that’s in it, I can’t help but reflect on us- our journey, from the moment we met the first time to our dinner to us becoming the BFFs that are and then eventually housemates. We have certainly seen each other through some and food and it has always made us stronger (in my opinion)- however, we didn’t necessarily make the time to spend the time our friendship always needed and I hope someday soon, just you and me can go for a walk, some wine and many a chat! Thank you for always being there, thank you for the fun times, thank you for the love.

Always,
Joy.

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Jul 1, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Well, it is almost 4 years since I started the blog.

Over these years, it has taken quite a journey- started from a daily diary to almost a pure rant space per chance to a place for random thoughts to a place for my daily reflection to a place for hope and courage for others- it has been the place I come to be me.

It has been a strength for me, a sense of anonymity in some ways, a read for many people and it has reached out to many, if the emails and comments are anything to go by- from days where practically no one read my blog and that was the original hope to having almost 350 regular subscribers and about 100 other daily visitors, I am absolutely delighted that my words are getting some recognition- in many ways, it shows, if you do something, you stick with it, you get the traction!

Thank you all for being part of the journey and being a part of the moment of the week. Love to you all.

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Catching up with June!

So the last week just took me by surprise and it was tough in a lot of ways, so here goes the ones I have missed out on:

June 23: Gratitude:

Sunshine: A weekend in the sun, longest day of the year, loads of friends, great music, fantastic memories- all made extra special because of the beautiful weather.
– Ability to drive: After having to drive back from the music festival, I am glad I could- having to spend an extra night there would not have been fun!
– Shower: Nothing like a good clean shower after a weekend of camping and fun!

June 24: Moment:

The first time I went looking for an apartment, I was clueless as to what I should be looking for- eventually found something, nice size etc and realised that the girl I lived with was amazing and I had struck lucky till she had to  move out… as I look back, I have had some odd moments all right, some weird stories but all in all, I have been really lucky and I hope as I go looking to share for potentially the last time, I am really excited about the prospect of meeting someone new, making a new friendship and creating a new atmosphere and environment around me!

June 26: Letter:

Dear Mum’s Youngest Sister,

You have often been the one I have compared to most- thank you for our advice, thank you for your pragmatism, thank you for your love, thank you for the inspiration you have provided and thank you for the shoes!

I love you loads and I miss you loads- wish I could be there through these times.

Love,
Joy.

June 27: Weekly Achievements:

- Packing up completed
– In the news in 2 different countries
– Taking some time to remind myself how lucky I am over a nice bath and a glass of bubbles!

June 30: Gratitude:

- Good Times: Water skiing, donuting, BBQs, drink with Red’s granny, all make for good times! Great weekend makes for a great start to the week
- Sense of Humour: SO much went wrong over the past while but a sense of humour has really been awesome
- R&R: Booked myself a spa day and also had lie-ins, sleep-ins, chilling in the sun and all the things that make for a nice R&R (even if the body aches now!)

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Jun 20, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. 2 random, drunken nights with The Shrew- 4 days of hanging out and loads of fun
2. Letting every care in the world go for the potential new house I live in
3. Getting an article in the news

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