Dec 18, Thursday: Letter

Dear little sis,

You are awesome. I adore you so much and am so glad that thanks to technology we are so good at keeping in touch- the silly ideas you send my way, the silly jokes we share, the plans we hatch, the fun we have- I am absolutely delighted we are the way we are! It’s good to have you by my side when we have the silly brothers that we do :)

You have grown to be such a wonderful person, still confused about everything but with a fantastic heart that is very generous and giving to all.

I am so proud to call you my sister and I am so glad we are both as excited as we are about being ‘bua’ together.

Love you loads and can’t wait to give you a hug in a few weeks time.

Yours always, with lots and lots of love and happiness,
Joy di

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Getting rid of the negative…

Here’s a great set of questions I came across about getting rid of all that is in your way and your success:

- Do things not always work out for you?

- Do you get blocked or sabotaged when reaching towards a goal? Identify any patterns from the past.

- When was the last time you were upset? Why?

- Do you experience the same challenges over and over?

- Do the same things create an emotional rise for you?

I am looking forward to identifying where I stop myself- every few months I repeat such exercises and I have noticed some fairly strong patterns emerging which have then helped me distance myself from things I don’t necessarily agree with- people, habits, thoughts, words. Next stop, reducing my cursing!

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A wee pep me up!

Recently, I learnt a good trick to pep me up when I am beginning to dip after a high…

I think of 5 things that made me really happy in the last 24 hours:

1. Falling in love with my 3 day old brother’s kid
2. Making two MASSIVELY HUGE decisions for work
3. Identifying the director I want with me in my company
4. Celebrating good friendships over wine with two very good friends
5. Planning an animated movie Christmas night out with a friend followed by a mountain of food
6. Meeting an absolutely amazingly inspiring lady during work

How awesome a day was it?! :)

Here’s to celebrating the little things in life!

every day a chance

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Dec 16, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Growing up in India, Christmas was not a big deal per se- it meant the school fete, it meant a Santa in school, it meant plum cake and it meant holidays!

My first ever proper Christmas was a beautiful affair and I was absolutely showered with love by the 5 of them. The couple who took me in gave me tonnes of pressies- I got jammies, chocolate, jumpers, jacket, socks, teeshirts and so much love! It was a beautiful experience. For the first time ever, I understood the whole attraction and love of Christmas, the whole point of it, the traditions of it!

I know I will never have a Christmas like that again- it was my first, I was showered with presents, I could be myself, I was a kid and now I am an adult and the magic spell has broken! I am so lucky to have had a chance to appreciate this and have that experience. Merry Christmas all xxxx

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Dec 15, Monday: Gratitude

1. Red and his support
As things have been awkward with Ryan, Tigger and me, I didn’t want to involve Red in it and asked him to make a decision for himself. He didn’t go either and I really appreciated his standing by me and instead helping me with some business plans of mine, some DIY work and some R&R time. This weekend was him doing bits and bobs for me and I felt very loved.

2. Healthy living
For the past while, I have been very conscious of what I eat and how much I exercise etc. It has been fantastic to feel the impact of it in my body and I am absolutely loving it!

3. Family
With a new addition to the family, I am so glad I have the family I do!

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Strength!

It’s 14 years- 14 years of life without a father and I am very lucky
– very lucky to not have someone around me who would have tried to control my life
– very lucky to not be around someone with antiquated thinking, despite his intelligence
– very lucky to have so many other male role models who stepped forward

I know I am lucky but in no way does it make it easier.

There are two people you expect to always support you, to always be there, to envelop you with a bear hug, to pick you up when you are down, to unconditionally love you- your mum and dad. Every one else is someone you choose to give that power to.

I have dealt with it, I have the power to get on with life and I have overcome every situation it has placed in my path, but I miss him.

I don’t miss a father, I miss dad. And for all intents and purposes, he is dead to me but wherever he is- I wish him well, I hope he is at peace and at least, somewhere deep down he found the feeling of contentment he was looking for.

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Dec 12, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Shopped things I didn’t need like yet another tea light holder, a sparkly diary for myself
2. Bought my first ever Christmas tree- collecting it tomorrow- hopefully this will put me in a more festive mood
3. Made a MASSIVE headway in business!

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Dec 11, Thursday: Letter

Dear Fairy

We met and we knew we were going to be friends- surprisingly since we are very different, have different perspectives to EVERYthing, have different tastes- you are the sophisticated, smart girl and I am the simple, old man pub drinking girl yet there is something in us that draws us to each other.

I am so glad we are friends, I am so glad we connect at some level and I am so glad we have each other to throw ideas around with!

Here’s hoping you have a fab 2015 and life gets easier for you.

Much love,
Joy.

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Dec 9, Tuesday: A Beautiful Memory

This is a memory that never actually happened- for some reason, I still talk of it as if it did!

Many moons ago, when I broke up with TL, I recall Ryan and me talking about some stuff. One evening, we were discussing the company and I had given a lot of advice (as we both did to each other then) on business etc. When he learnt I was not coming to visit Dublin the next month as was my original plan, he decided to come to India- the way the cheap flights worked out for him meant he would be here for my first time seeing TL since our break up and TL’s father’s birthday which I was invited to.

He arrived on a Saturday and for some reason, I claim he only decided on a Wednesday and arrived 3 days later to support me.

Today, I have good memories of that trip but I do genuinely wonder what made me make up such a story?!

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Dec 8, Monday: Gratitude

1. An Understanding of Me
Last night, while I was having a conversation about my priorities and how things have changed for me in the last 5 years, I made a statement that surprised me (in a good way)- I said “When I think of me, I automatically take Red into consideration as he is a part of me”- to me, this is another step in the emotional dependence of a relationship. It scares, excites, terrifies me in a way I have never felt before and I am excited about what the future holds!

2. Heels
Nothing like a pair of heels to make you feel awesome about yourself and get you in the party mood.

3. Silly season
Silly season is a great way of reminding yourself how amazingly loved you truly are!

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Just adopted!

 

blankets have accepted me

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Dec 5, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Had a good girly night out and didn’t end up having chips!
2. Made some me time and had a great time catching up with some wonderful friends
3. Struck a very interesting partnership up for work that we hope to launch in Q1 2015.

Such a great week- thank you world x

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Dec 4, Thursday: Letter

Dear Sailor in Heels,

You came into my life one random evening- we hit it off, never really managed to catch up properly. We bumped at many occasions and somehow, one day, we just knew we were going to just get to the point where we become inseparable.

Last night, confirmed it again.

Chatting to you about work, about dreams, sharing thoughts, bouncing off walls, having the lolz, bantering with ransomers, being silly- we crammed so much in- bar the chips! Here’s to many more shenanigans, to deep conversations, to heart to hearts, to silliness, to a beautiful friendship.

Thank you!

Love,
Joy.

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Beauty…

… is genuinely skin- deep! (RANT ALERT!!!!)

Over the last while, I have had some amazing experiences and I have been reminded, yet again, that how you think, how you behave and how you deal with situations defines how beautiful you are, really.

Beauty = Attitude + Behaviour + Actions

Time and time again, I oscillate between anger, hurt and disappointment with the way things are/ have ended with Ryan. More so, I am sad to see my friendship with Tigger affected too- she was just a bystander, or so I hoped.

On one hand, I am better off knowing how little he thinks of me and surrounding myself with the people who want the best for me. On the other hand, I have shared a great bond with him and would really be sad to see the end of it, especially in such a manner where civility doesn’t seem to be part of it.

I am also aware that Red is affected by the situation, even if he knows very little of it from me and I have asked him to keep a neutral stance.

I seem to have a few scenarios re a party in a few days, and I hope to take a decision and just stick to it, rather than keep second-guessing myself!
1. I go as if nothing has happened
2. I don’t go to a place I ain’t welcome in and I don’t involve Red at all
3. I don’t go and I request Red not to go

My biggest concern with me going is me wasting my time in a place it ain’t appreciated.
My biggest concern with me not saying anything to Red is it being read as he is against the stance I am taking.
My biggest concern with asking Red not to go is making a choice for him that is not mine to make.

This is crazier than a bad breakup! Bah. (Funny thing, I bet he hasn’t even given this a second thought and really, on that basis alone, I really should just let go- after all, a friendship is a two way street and I can’t recall the last time he made the first move!).

 

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Dec 2, Tuesday: A Beautiful Memory

One of the things I (and almost every other AIESECer) truly enjoyed by AIESEC were the ‘conferences’- we thought we were genuinely changing the world and hopefully in our own little way, we were…

One of the traditions I always appreciated was this thing called ‘sugar cubes’!

This was a basically a form of saying something nice to someone without necessarily saying it face to face. You left a note for someone in their postbox and the idea was to brighten up their day- give a compliment, show your appreciation and just let everyone know how wonderful they are!

Reading sugar cubes was something I really did enjoy and wish I had kept some!

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Dec 1, Monday: Gratitude

Happy Monday and Happy December, world! Here’s to a fabulous new chapter ahead- end of 2014… make it count!!!

1. Good Food
Having food is amazing, good food even more so and when shared with friends, you just gotta love it!

2. Great Chats
Chats with friends, chats with housemates, chats with Red, chats with my family… I am so glad for these. They remind me how lucky I am to have friends and family, how lucky I am to be able to socialise with people and how awesome life is.

3. A Regular Cycle
Every woman has faced the fear sometime, the cramps (fortunately not often for me), the pain, the PMS etc… it is great to be regular and have no issues, most of the time.

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Nov 28, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Bar all my emotional self wanting it, haven’t reached out to the friend who has p!ssed me and needs to make the move to show he cares about this friendship.
2. Some very interesting business ideas and orders.
3. Baked a delicious brownie cheesecake!

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Nov 27, Thursday: Letter

Dear Big Guy

I don’t know whether to thank you, dislike you, trust you, be wary or what. I have known you for over a decade, we have been colleagues, friends, coach/ menthe, confidantes etc.

This time, I am disappointed that you caused the miscommunication between a friend and me, somehow managed to get away unscathed and left me in a sinking hole despite me not having been at fault. Thank you for making me realise trust is a tough thing even after years.

At the same time, I do wonder why that guy reacted the way he did and jumped to conclusions about me that he did! Thanks for making me realise the strength of that friendship.

Thank you for everything so far and going forward, I will be more wary! A tough lesson well learnt.

Thank you!

Love,
Joy.

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Nov 25, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

A good while ago,  Winnie and I were on holidays. As part of the trip, we went on a road trip with two other guys we met during our travels.

As is our thing to do, we took photographs of us jumping in random places, including this beautiful road lined with trees. The two boys were so straight and narrow, they had never understood this and got completely into it and started doing their own versions too.

Seeing the kiddie-glee beam out of all of us in a random place bonded us all for that moment. Will I ever see those guys again… who knows?! But for that brief moment, it was just about us being kids and having a good time!

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Nov 24, Monday: Gratitude

1. Peace
The sense of peace knowing you are doing something that goes with your morals and ethics is an amazing feeling. Feeling it often even more so.

2. Random Encounters
Sometimes, you have conversations you don’t expect. Sometimes, you have chats you don’t prepare for. Life is full of this randomness and spontaneity- loving it!

3. Excitement of the Future
Knowing that there is something very exciting lying ahead of you yet not knowing what IT is… great place to be!

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So be it!

Over the past 10 days, I have been at odds with Ryan.

He thinks I said something I shouldn’t have and I think he jumped to conclusions he shouldn’t have- it is an obvious misunderstanding but I have tried to make amends and make calls which have been ignored.

Being told to apologise to him last night peeved me off- we are both at fault and I did make move but haven’t been acknowledged and am tired of him never making a gesture. To some extent, I suspect ego will win this war and a part of me is too tired to care.

Ryan, 

You have been a very good friend and a great business partner in the past- we have had our differences on many levels and I am sorry to see our friendship has reached the point that it has. I have no clue where this junction will take us but at this point, I am going to leave it to the universe to guide, decide and lead.

I wish you luck with everything and the future. Hopefully someday we can be egoless and adults about this and you will know an apology is a two way street.

Joy.

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Nov 21, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Broken my clean living diet every single day without feeling guilty- I have eaten more chocolate, crisps, processed food than I should but I have enjoyed it.
2. Despite not having the funds, stretched myself to spend more than I should have at a charity event last night and walked away with a sense of faith than a sense of foreboding.
3. May have, just may have, struck a business deal the way I wanted to! Time shall tell… the ball is rolling.

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Need!

Yesterday, I talked of want.

Today, I NEED this- not for anything else, but to enjoy a moment of solitude, a moment of bliss and a moment of some introspection before the city goes insane with christmas!

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Nov 20, Thursday: Letter

Dear Terrifying Teacher

When we were kids, we were scared of you. People used to quiver when they heard your name, people used to hide when you walked anywhere and yes, I was among the group too.

But, somehow I was picked by you to nourished that little bit more. I was polished by you, goaded by you, showered love, attention and anger, pushed to the edges and brought back before I snapped- well mostly, I did snap bad and I love the fact that after all these years, I still think of you so fondly and know if our paths ever cross, we will still hug tight, we will share a strong bond and we will gossip about everything- I look forward to that whenever the time may be so!

For now, I hope you know your work was not wasted and I appreciate the fact that you decided to polish this piece of coal so much more.

Love,
Joy.

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WANT!

I want, yes WANT, a few things in life.

wonderful- I want happiness- not the concept that we seem to be talking everywhere but my own version of it- doing things only because I want to and not cos I have to. I started this about 2 years ago and it was the BEST thing I ever did.

- I want genuine people- I have blinders towards people who are gonna be racists, jealous, demotivating and immoral- still will be civil and will maintain the relationship I feel it befits but I may not genuinely trust or care for you the way you may think you deserve from me.

- I want health- doesn’t mean skinny- I haven’t had that for years, but I want to continue my long walks, my sporadic swimming, my even more sporadic yoga, my healthy eating buzz, my clean living lifestyle and tonnes of meditation!

- I want enough- enough love, enough money, enough sleep, enough work, enough things to do, enough books to read, enough of everything I may need. I want to be able to buy whatever I want without having to worry of cash, I want to be able to spend on whoever I want to spend it on without worrying.

- I want a home- not a big house or anything per se, just something comfortable and full of love- somewhere people like coming to, somewhere we have fun, somewhere we shares laughs and many special moments but never feel it is too cramped.

I want a lot yet not a huge amount. I am looking forward to all this unfolding in my life!

 

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Nov 18, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

When I was younger (not young, just younger- see what I did there!), I used to love riding a horse, against the wind, one with the animal and just feeling their heartbeat connect with yours and every other care in the world disappear…

I remember how I spent months training and making my foundations strong.
I remember how I spent hours and hours trotting without a saddle.
I remember how I spent weeks bump trotting and getting an absolutely sore a$$.
I remember the way I felt when I first went galloping through the tunnel in the middle of Delhi in a private training area.
I remember the first fall and the first of many broken noses.

I remember so much and I am so glad I got to experience all that!

Thank you horses, for your love, for your patience and for letting me come close to you.

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Nov 17, Monday: Gratitude

1. Friends
As time has gone by- I have genuinely learnt the worth of 5 awesome friends vs 50 good ones, even if those 5 awesome aren’t always around for me and drive me nuts! In the last while, I am reminded how lucky I am- despite getting pissed off with Ryan for jumping to conclusions & not wanting to clear the air, feeling abused by Jiju’s saali who thinks I have all the time on earth to do her work but none when I need help, a little underwhelmed by The Shrew for not having any time when I need advice, feeling exceptionally angry at one of the guys for wanting me to help with something non urgent that he was meant to do and messed up his time management (not as a request but an order!). I am so lucky to have the friends who will bring me homemade cocktails for a b!tch session, friends who will help me change lights in my car where I can’t reach or friends who help me strike the balance with give and take!

2. Rant
A good rant (See above) is awesome. I love it- get it out of the system and let it go… once gone, it can’t fester.

3. Exercise
A good stretch, a bit of a sweat, sore arms, feeling the muscles… yeah, it’s nice to be able to do that, feel that and enjoy that!

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Nov 14, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Spending time at home with my housemates and just chilling- great to be able to do that; baking and catching with the friends I genuinely wanted to
2. Not completely losing my temper with a friend who jumped to conclusions because another friend jumped to conclusions- some people automatically think the worst and their lack of ability to discuss it out and clean the air truly makes me want to kick their backside.
And not completely losing my temper at another friend who thinks working from home means being able to do all the restaurant bookings etc- if I say I am  busy, I am busy!
3. A massive realisation about my business skills, my current state about a previous company I used to very closely involved in and how I have grown.

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Nov 13, Thursday: Letter

Dear Customers

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Without you, I would be nothing- your orders, your words of feedback, your love of our product, your referrals, your money- all are very important to me. Each one of you is very special- some of you have driven me up the wall but have made up for it with the gushing praise for our work, some of you have been the most amazing customers ever and each and every one of you means the world to me.

Thank you.

Love,
Joy.

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Nov 11, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

There are days when the rain is pelting down, everything seems colder than ice and you are just happy to be sitting on a couch, watching random telly!

However, when I was in India, I used to love being in the rain in the summer- the pleasure of getting wet, then having to shower with cold water as there was no electricity and enjoying life while drinking chai and eating pakoras was something else- it was pure pleasure and s part of me craves to re-enact that moment at some stage!

For now, I will make do with a hot chocolate, a paneer spring roll and a good book- happy tuesday x

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Mov 10, Monday: Gratitude

Dry and Warm Weather
It is wet, windy, cold and I am definitely missing the sun and associated Vitamin D! I am grateful for the few dry, sunny days we get- please let there be more of them for me to appreciate.

Luxury
Went away for a weekend the other day and I realised that I have been spoilt to an extent I cannot appreciate luxury in it’s true sense and that, my dear friends, is proper luxury- I am grateful I have that.

Happiness
Been ages since I thanked happiness for being a part of my life- it does make everything so much more wonderful :)

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Nov 7, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Survived an epic 4 days bender
2. Managed to get some good business done in that bender
3. Met my deadlines despite all obstacles

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Nov 6, Thursday: Letter

Dear Life,

This week has been a bombardment of amazing experiences, craziness and just general silliness. Thank you for the moments such as these- my feet hurt, I am shattered, my liver screams in pain but it makes for great stories, fabulous memories and a happy life.

Thank you, thank you, thank you- I absolutely would be just a shell if not for you and the passion you ignite within me.

Love,
Joy.

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Nov 4, Tuesday: Beautiful Moment

One of the things I always indulge in when at home is a facial- a good old fashioned facial- not the ones we get today with a lot of products but the ones where the focus was the massage.

Till date, I have never found a better facial anywhere else. The lady I go to is magic.

I remember the feeling I get every time the day after the facial when my skin looks radiant and I feel absolutely luxurious. I realise, yet again, it is these luxuries in life that make for fabulous living and raise a toast to all those times I have taken a moment to myself.

Now to book another such session in the near future- nothing like a spot of pampering for self!

 

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Nov 3, Monday: Gratitude

1. Chilies
I have a terrible cold and the heat of chilies is the only thing keeping me happy at the moment- I have deed myself up on loads of them and am finding it way better!

2. Ability to be like a child
I spent saturday evening on a bouncy castle and had way more fun than I recall in a long, long time. I love re-discovering the child in me regularly and going back to behaving as one every so often! I hope I never lose it.

3. Baking
Recently, I have started baking a lot. I love being able to make dishes I enjoy eating and keeping them fairly healthy or at least healthier! I love that I have become rather adept at making tasty dishes too!

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Oct 31, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Caught up on sleep
2. Met some interesting people
3. Got a haircut!!!! Been putting it for months!

Happy Halloween

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There, I admit it!

Last weekend, within 24 hours, 4 friends got engaged- that’s 4 different couples, even if the partners are friends of mine too and another one got married. For the first time ever, I wondered if the Sex and the City of all the women finding their partners and their love etc is something more real than not.

I have always admitted I want to get married, have a family and enjoy that lifestyle but not until I am ready- however, when I see everyone around me going down the path, I do begin to wonder, am I in denial or am I expecting some sort of a thunderclap?!

It was weird, about 10 days, my first ever boyfriend got married and that impacted me more than any of my ex’s ever! It truly got me thinking of an alternate universe where I wasn’t such a party girl, where I was married, where I had kids and where I wasn’t living my dream. Additionally, I went through a whole introspection of my 20s and realised I spent it having fun- I did none of the sensible things one is expected to do- I didn’t save, I don’t own property, I didn’t get married, I don’t have a responsible job etc etc etc.

And I also realised in 2015, I can have NO frigging holiday because I will be spending all my free time in weddings- 7 close friends and family at last count- there may be a few more yet! I had thought I had gone through that wave and was in the baby wave but alas, life has other plans obviously and it has got me wondering…

Is this the beginning of the transition? Will this be where I get cranky and nary about the lack of a legal name to my relationship with Red?

I will admit, I am scared about the future! Wish me luck, peeps.

reality

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Oct 30, Thursday: Letter

Dear un born niece/ nephew,

I am VERY excited about you coming into the family. I think you are born into a family of luck and wish you lots of happiness and success. I do hope you grow up to be a fantastic person- kind, smart, intelligent, generous and achieve all your desires. As the bus who will be furthest away in terms of distance and in terms of the one who hardly is in contact with your parents, I still want you to know I love you loads and you are mine! I will always be there for you and even though you will be a few months old when we first meet, I cannot wait to hold you in my arms!

Love you loads already,
Joy Bua.

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Oct 28, Tuesday: Beautiful Moment

And I am back!! Miss me? ;)

So… with the day that it is- cold, miserable and wet, I am craving a bit of duveting with hot chocolates and soups! Alas, not to be.

I have a crazy busy day of getting myself fixed up for a very important meeting- preparing, reading, makeuping, hairstyling and things that take me ages but make for the right impact… I am transported back to the days of pure relaxation and today, I am transported back to the moment with Winnie, sitting in a beach, water lapping up against us, not a soul in sight, perfect weather and high on the surroundings and life- I am reliving the moment and re-enjoying the absolute joy of travel, contentment and being in the presence.

Take a moment and go back to your very own moment of pure bliss- it makes up for the slight dip in your day! Have a happy Tuesday xx

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Oct 23, Thursday: Letter

Dear Spartacus,

I can’t wait to give you a hug and kick you simultaneously tomorrow! It’s been crazy that we haven’t caught up in 4 years and I am really looking forward to sharing conversations, creating new memories, having a laugh and just being our silly selves again.

I can’t believe we have now been friends for 15 and what a fun/ odd journey it has been- from hanging out of cars to midnight drives to early morning omelettes to tubing to spiderman and whatever else.

See you soon!

Love,
Joy.

PS I am going off grid for the next few days guys as I get away from the internet and enjoy the real world for a while!

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If this Diwali…

… you take away one lesson, let it be:

Hating is a waste of timeHappy Diwali x

 

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Oct 21, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

Years ago, I used to genuinely adore this Bollywood actor- not cos he could have been a pin-up, not cos he was such a gentleman but because he always did roles that had a meaning or he made you laugh, he always demanded respect for his talent and not his wealth.

The day I met him for a brief 5 minus and got a hug and thank you for him for my words, I was on cloud 9!!

Today, another such person reached out to me- I have yet to meet her but to know I have a potential coffee waiting with her is exciting and I am really looking forward to it!

Thank you for such wonderful memories, world x

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Oct 20, Monday: Gratitude

Travel
I am off to see a friend of mine this weekend, the weekend after I am away again for another friend’s birthday, the weekend after Red and I are heading away to spend a day with room service and telly, the weekend after we are away seeing friends… it is amazing how much short travel I am getting in my life while I keep craving a new country and culture. I am glad I am at least getting the travel I am.

Food
The past while, I have been trying to clean up my eating habits and get better at eating healthy- tricky it may be but it makes me feel great and I am loving the extra energy!

Meeting People
I don’t mean the close friends and family but the ones you see on the street to say hello to, the ones you keep meaning to catch up with and the ones you are meeting for the first time. Seeing people again and meeting new people is such a joy.

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Oct 17, Friday: Weekly Achievements

- Kicked off a few interesting projects
– Met one of my favourite people for coffee
– Survived 2 weeks of my clean living diet and am absolutely loving it!

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Oct 16, Thursday: Letter

Dear little lady

When you came in to my life, we were working on the same project. We didn’t really have a chance to get to know one another… till one fine day, while having coffee at The Shrews, we started talking and you offered help. The next thing you knew, the three of us were seeing each other regularly and we became thick friends… Today, I count you amongst my closest pals and think you are one of the kindest, nicest, genuine people I have ever had the luck of knowing.

Stay the way you are and keep smiling, always!

Love,
Joy.

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Oct 14, Tuesday: A Beautiful Moment

I suffer from a terrible auto-immune disease called eczema. For the most part, I know how to keep it under control.

I thought I was doing a good job till I saw it everywhere on my chest and upper half of the body- over the next wile, I am going to cleanse my eating habits and clear the itch or so I hope. I am going to change shampoos and cleaners etc but the more interesting thing is that I was reading about it and apparently, it is connected to ‘loving oneself’.

Here, I thought I was doing really well- regular massages, good food, exercise, love, friends, working for self and genuinely enjoying life but obviously, somewhere I am lying to myself.

As I realise this, I also realise I have had many beautiful moments of realisation over the years and each one has been amazingly special:

- realisation that something is awesome in my life
– realisation I needed a change at certain times
– realisation of good friends and not so good
– realisation of love and respect
– realisation of happiness

All these realisations sometimes open a scary door but it always leads to a better path and eventually, forms a beautiful moment.

Happy Tuesday!

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Oct 13. Monday: Gratitude

1. Survival
After hosting yet another amazing party over the weekend, I am delighted that I managed to live another day- the instinct to curl up and never move again was very high but the survival instinct even more so!

2. Emotions
Tears, happiness, laughter, pain- all emotions, many more exist and the ability to feel them is pretty darn awesome!

3. Dependence
To be able to depend on someone is a fairly fabulous feeling. To have others depend on you even more. To recognise the importance of dependence is a lesson that took me forever to learn and one I am glad I eventually did!

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Oct 10, Friday: Weekly Achievements

1. Went to the cinema for the first time in ages
2. Started off a new health regime that seems to be going well, if reducing my ability to drink!
3. Tried some new things in work that will hopefully be a good gamble- fingers crossed!!

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Oct 9, Thursday: Letter

Dear Jiju’s Saali,

You came into my life many months ago- initially I was vary of you, you kept pushing, I met out of courtesy, you kept charming, I started initiating, you stayed charming and somewhere along the way, I realised how stupid I was for not having realised what a wonderful friend, what a beautiful person and how insane you really are. I am absolutely delighted we are friends- be it the movies, the coffees, the walking plans, the health regimes we break, the dinners, the parties, the slagging or just, laughing… you are absolutely brilliant and I hope you never change in your exuberance or your optimism. May you always be larger than life and may we always remain friends.

Love you loads,
Joy.

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Oct 7, Tues: A Beautiful Moment

I am late catching up on this as I was busy catching up with people in the real world.

I was reminded today of a beautiful Sunday last year in the summer when a friend I rarely see but enjoy great conversations with and I went walking up the beautiful Glendalough mountains and had a few drinks to just have a good time and enjoy the sunshine.

Moments like these are special and make me realise how lucky we truly are to enjoy this beautiful world.

Here’s to many more!

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